Can we become a “better” person?

 Sure, on the outside we apparently can. People may say, “he was a bit depressed before and now always seems happy”, or, “she was a bit conflicted but now knows when to say yes and when to walk away.”

 

On the inside, however, we cannot become a “better” person. It’s life’s mission to show us that all outcomes will always be mixed until we have awoken to the fact that this person who strives for better is a fallacy.

 

Once we step aside from the ‘me, myself and I’ all inner and outer conflicts disappear. The pure state of being is a lot more fun than the state of personhood; without ‘me’, the assessment  “better” is right, but doesn’t make sense.

 

Self-improvement makes us “better” if we awaken to the fallacy in the act of improvement, and the self disappears. Striving for something “better” can be necessary if only to realize that all striving is not necessary.

 

As I always say, self-improvement may not catapult us into heaven, but it does keep us out of the self-inflicted hell. Keep working on your self until the illusionary personhood is spotted, and something much “better” is realized.