Memories

I have young boys and I sometimes tell my colleagues who have older children about some of the struggles that I am facing and they smile benignly and say "this is such an age of innocence, you have no idea how much you will miss it later on".

Of course that will be case, all the feelings of love will be recalled as reality, whereas as problems, ear-infections or anger tantrums will be a faint memory. You may say that we are psychologically messed up, we have a selective memory and only store what we want to remember, right?

David Hawkins devised a spiritual power scale, arguing that the power of feelings and emotions grow geometrically from despair, fear or anger to love. What if the memories concerning our children happen to be the 'realistic' ones, and all our mind does over time is to filter out the unimportant from the important memories. After a few decades we finally get to the insight that applies all the time: in the end only love and kindness matters.