Saturday, August 1, 2015

Some desires bind you, some set you free

When you think about it, none of us really has any business to judge anything or anyone. What do we know what all the events in our and other people's life are really for. I might succumb to addiction but may meet my soul partner whose mission it is to heal me at one of the AA meetings. I might, very much like Dicken's Ebenezer Scrooge exploit others all my life only to have a mental breakdown on one special Christmas Eve and look at the world with new spiritual eyes for the rest of my life. We know nothing, but our soul does, as does the Way.

So which of our desires then bind us and which ones set us free? Which desires in fact help us, and which waste precious time? Well, we know deep down inside what is right for us and what isn't. And life - the Tao - always stands ready moment by moment to assist us in our soul searching mission. All we have to do is to keep our eyes, ears and, especially, our heart wide open and the answer will become clear to us. Perhaps it is exactly the other way around as you always thought: perhaps it is the stuff that you hate so much, the many bills that have to be paid, the apparently soul-destroying job, or all these annoying people in your life that in fact hold the key to your spiritual break-through. Just perhaps, if you were given a 'carte blanche' - like a lottery win for example - you would only deviate further from your true mission. Trust life, trust your past, trust that everything that ever happened to you, happened for a very good reason!

While life's vision is 20:20 as far as the past is concerned, life is always an exciting mystery as far as the holy now is concerned. We only know two things, every voice matters, and every occurrence is meaningful. Yet in all this uncertainty, one thing is crystal clear though. We are God's co-creators and it is our job to steer our boat Home with some divine assistance. Honor the desires that still stick to you. Let your passion burn the remaining ties, and try to give purpose to whatever it is you do. You will find that some of your desires set you free, and that the ones that still bind you, will in fact connect you to the Way. It is always the same movie, in all that uncertainly, in all that soul searching, you always do the thing that is right for you anyway. Have faith in your instincts and trust the Way! You are fine, always have been and always will!

Friday, July 31, 2015

When the Tao Knows What Your Soul Wants

Compassion hurts. When you feel connected to everything, you also feel responsible for everything. And you cannot turn away. Your destiny is bound with the destiny of others. You must either learn to carry the universe or be crushed by it. You must grow strong enough to love the world, yet empty enough to sit down at the same table with its worst horrors.
(Andrew Boyd)

I feel stressed at work. I hate the fear of making forecasts about unknowable events. As an introvert, I feel burdened by all the endless interactions. I mind all the little hurts, the mistakes, and the missed opportunities. But then, the other day I was looking into the mirror at work, expecting to see an old, haggard, burnt-out face to look back at me, only to find the opposite: a smiling, almost reckless looking young man.

Just because it seems to you that you carry the universe doesn't mean that your soul sees it the same way. Sometimes we think that the life we are living is hard, sometimes we feel like we are running into walls. Yet, if the feedback we are receiving is positive, then why not proceed? We know so little. Our soul may be on a mission that we only understand retroactively. As far as today is concerned, you may just have to plunge in and let Her do Her thing, whether you like it or not.

Thursday, July 30, 2015

It doesn't matter where you go, because there you are!

The Law of Attraction follows you around just like your skin. The longings of your soul are imprinted deep into your sub-consciousness and you pull people and life events in, just as a light house attracts boats into the harbor. You may consciously influence this energy field with some life changing insights, or may solve internal struggles with the help of a life coach, but essentially you always carry around the same movie plot. Certainly, some of your soul demands may get eventually met; that is, the feeling of "been there, done there" somehow gets implanted into your genes. Some of your aversions may also get helped by changing a job or parting with a problematic person, but new ones will always stand ready to play with you just like before.

Cutting off ties with your children is, well, stupid because they are you. Leaving your spouse is a possibility, though a new one with new issues will likely be just around the corner. Just personally, I left my family with their problems back in my home-country, but now have my in-laws to deal with instead. I certainly will not pick a third continent to start it over all again; so what choice do I have but accepting healing right here and now. 

Work provides you with similar important soul connections. The financial pressures and social obligations that you perceive are nothing but a trick to keep you in the game to deal with people and issues you normally wouldn't. Don't curse the people who you think cause your pain, and don't regret the mortgage, health and school bills either; just enjoy the priceless opportunity to be transformed the way your sub-conscience wants you to. Sure, sometimes it is fine to shout "enough is enough", pick up your stuff and leave. But always remember, it doesn't matter where you go, because there you are!

The Wisdom of Your In-Laws

Why are we entangled with someone? Most of the time we are in committed relationship because they are somehow meaningful to us. Especially family relations are essentially soul-agreements that have been agreed on long before we were born. Our spouse we choose somehow, though a lot of this decision happens subconsciously. Our children we can't really do anything about; their character we simply have to accept, and our in-laws we have to live with more or less as well. Colleagues are often hard to avoid if you care for the company you work for, and our best friends may change on us over the years. 

We may not feel acknowledged or loved in some of these relationships, so we feel somehow stuck with them. Of course, we could lose our patience, and often we do. Yet, this entanglement only tells how much we need to work on ourselves. If these relationships are inescapable anyhow, how does it help us if we add fuel to the fire by lashing out at them? If changing the other person doesn't seem possible, we might as well work on ourselves instead. 

Just remember, everybody and everything is here for a reason. And given that we hate making changes, the hardest problems are often presented to us by the people we cannot run away from. So sit down and reflect on your situation. What change does this annoying confrontation want from you? Is it really a good idea to quit a job or friendship, or a relationship that is meaningful to your wife or your children? Meditate on it. Perhaps you can find a change that will be a golden middle for all parties involved. 
When we work on ourselves, we suddenly can break free of the entire confrontation. Now our attention is no longer on that person. And because of this switch of attention, suddenly, all the wasted energy comes back to us. With this energy boost we even find a new direction for our troubled relationship. Observe yourself in every interaction; suddenly, you realize that everyone is here to set you free. Why don't you go today and thank the trouble spot in your life for helping you find the Way!

By Christian and Su Zhen 

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

The Way of Abundance

Jesus went for 40 days into the desert, Buddha wandered for seven years through the jungle, while Moses went for 40 years through the desert in search of the holy land, and perhaps worst of all, never reaching it in his lifetime. 

We spiritual traveler shouldn't seek the desert experience, our raison d'ĂȘtre is peace and love instead; but when you find yourself walking through the desert, know that it holds the fountain of your spiritual insights. So just keep on walking and look out for the Way that leads you to the next oasis.

Sometimes we feel abundance, and sometimes we simply decide for abundance because we are unwilling to tolerate what we see in front of us. We say, "no, this ain't me" and we do something about the situation we are in. But then, we shouldn't be compensating either. The fountain of abundance is always within. Every period of scarcity should be just that, a temporary step from what we know is the Way.

Traveling the Way is a little different from Buddha's inward journey, and Jesus' connection with his Father. It is an awareness that the "without" is a mirror image of the "within"; it is the ability to see abundance within scarcity, and the recognition of lack in accumulated wealth. The fountain of abundance is everywhere, but you have to know where to look.

Monday, July 27, 2015

Words of Encouragement Go a Long Way

I saw today a colleague presenting to an internal audience, giving them advice about their careers. And as he was speaking I had a flashback of a meeting we had some fourteen years ago when I was struggling in my career. After I had told him all about my struggles at that time, he looked at me and said, "Christian, if your career was a stock, I would be buying right now." Well, it turns out that he is a darn good investor. I managed to turn my career around afterwards. Words of encouragement go a long way. See how you might show a brother or sister who they truly are. 

Sunday, July 26, 2015

Dao: Ready, Set and Go

We were leaving the house to go to our favorite family restaurant, and as I was checking my mobile phone the time said 12:03, which for me is a meaningful number sequence just as 11:11 is for many other spiritual travelers. By the way, you exclude zeros in numerology, so the sequence reads 123, which to me has the same message as ready, set, go.

We managed to load the entire family into the car, grand-father, boys and all; and as I was pulling the car out of the drive-way, I glanced at the clock of the car and it read 12:03, which is possible because it runs a few minutes behind the time on the mobile phone.

We drove to our destination and I had forgotten all about the synchronicity until I pulled into the parking lot of the restaurant and saw that the clock read this time: 12:30. I of course had to smile and took my phone out to write this little note. Guess what the clock on the phone was? 12:34!

I conjectured to my father-in-law that perhaps today we get his favorite table near the window and just as we came in, the family that was sitting there got up to leave, the waitress smiled at him and said, "I kept the favorite table for you since I knew you were coming!

As we left I passed by a car with the license plate DAO 6. Again, in numerology you add a number sequence until you are left with a single digit: 1+2+3=6. It is nice to be connected to the Way.