Assertiveness versus Aggressiveness

It is ok to want things. You believe that you deserve good sex, you want to have a good job, a promotion, more money, more status, more friends and experience true love. Well sure, the world is your oyster, go out and assert yourself, state your preference and see where the journey takes you. Holding back your desires or suppressing them does not help anyone. Assertiveness implies that you express who you truly are.

So what then is aggressiveness? Aggressiveness is the violent act of trying to take things despite resistance. If you run into constraints you have to respect them. However, you scream 'I want it thus!' and you take the toy away from someone else just because you feel it is in your power to do so. If you push your environment around, it will push back. You may get your way temporarily, but you are sowing the seeds of your destruction. If you abuse your brother you will be abused. This is the law of oneness. 

Assertiveness in contrast implies that you respect and value the environment you operate in. You  accept the fact that you find resistance along the Way and you understand that working within your constrains will propel you along your Way. The Tao will give you what you want when you assertively state your demands. By giving you what you want little by little you learn to harness your power, learn to truly appreciate what you get and learn ton distinguish the glitter from the gold.