You can to be in harmony with yourself; you can be in tune with your nature and sex drive. Unfortunately society has expectations about how this dance of yin and yang should look like, as have our spiritual leaders. If you are a man, perhaps you criticize yourself for your urge to chase women; perhaps you mind that you "always want it". Man's sexual nature tends to be more aggressive and that may be be hard to accept especially if this view conflicts with your notion of spirituality. We don’t mean to imply that you should do whatever you want to do, but try to express yourself in the bedroom the way you truly are and not how you want to be. You will learn a lot in the process. Sexual repression doesn't help yin, it doesn't help yang and may also not help God much. Men are attractive to women when they display their "nature". When men embrace their masculinity they are affirmative, active, assertive and strong. The same principles apply to women as well. When a woman is in tune with her feminine side she will become most attractive to a man. She is tender and gentle, passive, colorful, loving and beautiful. She embraces her body and is tune with her hormonal fluctuations.
As a rule of thumb, whenever you are aware of who you are, when you are in tune with your nature, you will be in harmony with yourself, with life and with the Tao. But whenever you have opinions about yourself, whenever you try to be what society or your notion of spirituality tells you, you are in conflict with yourself, your bedroom partner and the Tao.
Sexy men and women are those who are aware of their nature and are in harmony with themselves. They naturally attract more people to their life because that is how Tao works. The Tao is an energy exchange and if you open up to your true nature you activate every ounce of energy within yourself. You can observe that when the opposite sex meet with each other, the women becomes even more feminine while the men become more masculine. That is how the energy balance works. In this way, they are attracted to each other and complement and help each other to fulfill their respective roles. Both sexes need each other to become whole.
When men and women meet each other and become one, they re-experience and rediscover the taste of oneness with God. When they love each other, devote themselves to each other and forget about themselves, they are in the Now - they travel the Tao. As a matter of fact, it can't get any more spiritual than that. There only is the Now, and the dance of yin and yang gets you there. You experience true love, harmony and creation. The biologists are right in their view that the "selfish gene" works hard in the background to propagate itself. But this is only part of the story. The other part is that the Tao works with this drive and leads you straight to love, to wholeness and with it, to God.
Yin and yang will always be a dance of different energies. This even holds true with homosexuality. When two partners of the same gender meet in the bedroom, someone will be passive and someone assertive, someone will be yin and someone yang. It takes two to tango and in this dance someone will always lead while someone will follow, just as in the bedroom someone tends to lie on top, while someone will be on the receiving end of this sexual energy. That is the eternal dance of yin and yang.
However, don't confuse aggression with assertiveness and don't mix abuse with submission.The dance of yin and yang holds the ticket to manifesting love. If you use the creative powers of sex to throw - symbolically or real - dirt on love, you will cut into your own power base and you will naturally deviate from the Tao. Have a look at pornography and see the ego symbols at display in most of them. Instead of a merger of souls it becomes a battle of body parts. The power of men over women is an ongoing theme that the ego gets exited about. They say that once the power of love transcends the love of power, (wo)man will be God. Make this your spiritual yardstick for everything and say consciously no to the power game when it conflicts with respect and love for your partner.
Discovering the love for power in pornography is not hard to do and, as a rule, men fall more easily into this trap than women to. Yet women are also at risk to fall into the power trap, beautifully ornamented by the appearance of love. Women are attracted by status and by looks. Men go out and conquor the world while women go out and conquer the men who conquer the world. Women are in love with the "alpha male" , the top male in looks, sports, entertainment, business, politics or society and they find all kind of reasons for themselves why it is not about power, but about love instead. If you use your body to get something you are neglecting your soul and you violate the spiritual harmony that way. But you know what, fall in love with whoever you think you love, and use your body however you like. TheTao will always show you the way to true love. Some relationships will lead to marriages, some marriages will lead to soul partnerships. You may "fall in love" for the wrong reasons, but life will always give you a change to heal and be healed. Don't condemn the "selfish gene", just observe and adjust and let the Tao lead you straight to true love and with it to God.
Enjoy the dance of yin and yang, and enjoy it in the bedroom as well. Find the true sexual expression of who you are and overcome the rules of society and your own notions of how yin and yang should behave. Let your body teach you who you are and not your mind. But don't get enslaved by your passion. Observe your ego in action and be mindful when the ego wants to throw dirt on love. Discover for yourself that we can understand our biological roots and our evolutionary strive for power. Be mindful of the chemicals in your brain that get released as you start the physical dance of yin and yang, the hormones that drive your actions and your mood, and the blood that is rushing through your system.
Power symbols may show up in the bedroom, aggression may meet submission in the bedroom at both party's delight. You have to accept what turns you on, yet understand that this just reflects a power imbalance in the rest of your life. Find out the authentic need expressed by your demon in the bedroom and work on it. Perhaps it is a wake-up call to be more assertive in your interactions, perhaps it is a reminder to ease up a little and to get in touch with your feminine side. Your bedroom can help you find who you truly are. Enjoy the dance of yin and yang, embrace sexual healing and find out for yourself how the power of love can replace the love of power.
This note is part of " A Demon in the Bedroom" series. Please also look for
"Sex, Love and Power"
" Don't Confuse Mind Sex with Mind-Blowing Sex"
http://zeitgeistinma.blogspot.com/2013/03/dont-confuse-mind-sex-with-mind-blowing.html
By Christian and Su Zhen
By Christian and Su Zhen
1 comment:
That’s beautiful ... many thanks for sharing!
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