The Abundance of Love

 Monique is an attractive middle-aged French lady. She has beautiful fair skin and brown curly hair.  She is from a very wealthy family.  Her parents run a couple of trading companies and own several factories producing high tech parts for the latest smart phones.  She married to a nice, handsome man, but he is from a middle class background. Together they raise a smart teenage son together.  So you would think she has everything anyone would dream of, but Monique is not happy at all. Worse than that,  she often makes people around her miserable.

 She fights a lot with her mom, with her brother and sister-in-law and her husband as well. It is always about something but the underlying theme seems to be that she thinks they don’t love her. It is certainly true that sometimes they don't pay enough attention to her because of their busy lifestyle, but she is definitely in their hearts.  However, her mom gets tired of her fits and the brother - sister relationship has  grown distant. Monique's marriage also nearly broke down over the constant quarrels. Can you imagine this?  She could have it all but she almost ruins everything with her craving for love.  Does this story sound familiar to you?

 Maybe Monique's case is extreme but it is very common for all of us to zoom into the things we think are missing in our relationships and we sometimes forget the many loving things people have done for us. This is how we can destroy our relationships.  We have unrealistic expectation about people around us, especially our parents.  We expect them to love us, to be there whenever we need them, to care for us regardless of how they feel.  However, we have to understand that our parents are human beings as well.  They get tired too and have their limits.

 We don’t say that you we don't need the support, love, and attention from other people you deserve.  However, please be aware that especially with our family relationships we may still haven't grown out of our baby habits. We stay stuck in that stage, we look for people for all the attention we think we need, when in fact we risk pushing them out of our life that way.

When you think about it, Monique knows she has material abundance, but she feels starved for love. Step one in her recovery plan should be affirmations, the daily reminder that she is surrounded by love. Step 2 is sharing love because that is the Law of Abundance in action. They more you give, the more you receive. The Law of Scarcity is the opposite. When you think you are missing something even that little will be taken away from you. Once you start looking for love with a magnifying glass you subconsciously express your distrust and that is very stressful for every relationship.  Fact of the matter is that for a child of God love just like everything else is abundant, but you have to know it to perceive it. May you radiate with the love that you are.

By Su Zhen