On Figuring Out What You Really Want

Do you know what you really want to accomplish in your life?  And are you willing to pay the price for it? I remember when both my kids were still young, and we lived in a big and fancy house which required lots of work to maintain, I also wanted to take good care of my kids. So in order to send them to all the different after-school activities while taking care of the house at the same time, I ended up needing a couple of helpers.  However, at that time I was very hesitant to invite other people into my private life. I had also had bad experiences of managing people, so it turned out I wasn't ready to make that step.

What now seems to be such an easy explanation took me actually quite a while to figure out. The struggle was all in my subconsciousness. So I ended up spending quite a long time looking for help and was not able to find anyone.  As you might imagine, the right people magically showed up once I was ready to welcome them into our family's life. Does this theme sound familiar to you?  Have you been working on some goals  for some time only to find that you are going nowhere?  Observe your struggle inside. Only you can prevent yourself from going where you want to; and no one can stop you from getting what you want once you have become determined to get it.

 You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Every choice comes with a trade-off attached. The lesson plan of the Tao is to show that pleasure and pain are different sides of the same coin. So make up your mind, identify what you want and go for it tiger! The pleasure will give you happiness, while the pain will help you grow as a person if you open up to it.   Experience how fast your dream can come true when you acknowledge your inner struggles and are willing to pay the price for your success.

 By Su Zhen and Christian