You've got to know when to hold 'em,
know when to fold 'em,
know when to walk away,
and know when to run
(The Gambler, Kenny Rogers)
If you are a man and you have been in a meaningful relationship before, it must have happened to you that you were beaten up over seemingly nothing by your better half and when you tried to defend yourself to the best of your abilities you found that this only made matters worse. Then it dawned on you this situation is perhaps a hormon-induced challenge, so you shrug your shoulders and you let fate do her thing. Amazingly, the thunderstorm soon ends and the sun comes out shinning brighter than ever before.
We Tao travelers study the yin and yang of life but it is not exactly that we are standing next to it, we are very much part of this force as everyone else. Yet life gives us plenty of opportunities yo disconnect from this endless back and forth and that's what the spiritual path is all about. Just step our of it when the moment is ripe: the desire that you realize is not you, the fear that you are eventually willing to face, or by finally letting go of the guilt and regrets of the past. A spiritual path is all about letting go of the artificial while embracing the authentic. I am not this, I am not that. I Am!
Layer after layer of your personality blanket unravels and you disconnect from the yin and yang of life just as you have both feet in life. You may ask so how to know when to embrace, when to accept and when to abstain and I would say that's what the Tao is for. Just like wondering when to eat a banana, you see the color, you feel the texture and you just know. The Tao provides you with these instincts. Like Kenny Rogers' Gambler you will learn when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run.