Giving and Taking

He leads a pretty isolated life. He doesn’t accept help or gifts from anyone. Although he never talks about it, you can tell just by looking at him that he doesn't want to be indebted to anyone. By staying aloof he maintains his pride and independence. However, by refusing to interact with others, he also shuts the door to any fruitful relationship.

He often feels that he is not loved.  However, he has no idea that he himself is the creator of this misery. How can anyone build up any connection if he shuts the door on everyone?  How can anyone become his friend given that he always worries that these friends are going to bring him trouble?  He is not willing to do anything for anyone. He has his peace but he lives in his own world and he is definitely not happy.

People seem to have different reasons to stay away from each other. Some are shy, some are proud, some are suspicious, and some have been burnt badly by someone before. By staying aloof we maintain our pride and dignity. However, we are shutting out life that way. By cutting out the remote chance to experience hurt we also avoid getting showered by life's presents.

Giving and taking, loving and being vulnerable are essential parts of being connected with others. We take from others and we shower them with our love and attention. A virtuous cycle of giving and taking, loving and learning unfolds throughout the community. Never be shy to ask for help, and always stand ready to give back. We serve people and give others the opportunities to serve us. Serving and helping makes people feel good about themselves; it provides meaning and happiness.

 Join the circle of love, gratitude and cooperation. Your sanity and happiness depends on it!

By Christian and Su Zhen