On guilt

 Whenever someone in our family dies in an accident, we will feel guilty if we keep living our life as before. Because he left and we are still here, we feel guilty. It’s very difficult to notice this guilt but it will show up in different parts of our life.

Because we have the same mind, we are one, and our pain is overlapping, so we experience the same pain.

Because of guilt, we will do something to make us suffer so that we can balance this guilt, for example getting sick, or experiencing bad things. Whatever it is, we will create something so that we will feel bad about ourselves.  Actually, if we don’t pay close attention to this link, it’s very difficult to notice.

Whenever tragedy happens in a family, we will want to follow this energy or balance this tragedy. When we indulge ourselves in guilt, sometimes we will do exactly the opposite, for example, we want to punish ourselves, but we don’t have courage, so I will hurt you and encourage you to be mean to me. I will intentionally do something bad so that you will torture or hurt me. Because I cannot hurt myself, I don’t have that courage, it will feel better if someone else can do it so we can cancel our feeling of guilt.

We can see from here, our mind is just cycling here, keep entangling, keep doing things so you will be mad at me, and so I can hate you only to feel guilt again. This is endless.

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