Safety Keeps Us Stuck

 It’s difficult for us to face our reality that’s why we want to escape. Why do we want to escape?  Because we are very scared of the unknown. We cannot stay in unknown for even one second.  Our heart is empty so we want to stay in a state of safety, but this safety keeps us stuck.  We are stuck in this pattern and it’s the origin of fear.

We always project the present moment to the future so we can escape pain and the unknown. We always want to feel safe, but this safety makes us feel miserable. We think we have safety now but we are scared of losing it.  So we have to understand what exactly is safety?

Our notion of safety is actually created by our fear.  For example, when I self pity, I will invite others to comfort me or pity me. At this time, I drag others into my game and it becomes two people’s issue. And this reinforces the self pity pattern in the soul and creates more issues.

In the beginning, you may feel good and think you find safety, but soon you feel frustrated, because others cannot accommodate you all the time. They also have their own issues and won’t engage with you anymore and then you feel frustrated, and then you you repeat your pattern again. So can we see if we can really get any safety by doing this?

If you find Suzhen Liu’s writings helpful, please check out her book, ‘Letting Go—Release Your Suffering’ on Amazon. 

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