Riding the Dark Horse

Is there an eternal struggle between what our mind tells us is right and what feels right? When it comes to our desires, are we condemned to experience "damned if you do, and damned if you don't? How can we express our sexual urges in a spiritually kosher way?

                         "Proper" Desires         Dark Desires

                         Sex with Partner          Affair, Promiscuous, Taboo

Feelings            Pleasurable                  Thrill

Mind                 Right                             Wrong

A couple of hundred years ago in the famous Victorian Age we were told to suppress our desires, whereas today we all laugh heartedly at the naïveté of this area. But then, many of us still strongly believe in the institution of marriage and a single sexual relationship. But what if our partner enjoys straying sexually just as we do; would that make it ok? What if in a couple of hundred years many of us live - and sexually express themselves - in a clan just as we did a few hundred thousand years ago. Could they feel sorry for our boring sexual lifestyle today? 

Who knows. You have to answer all these questions for yourself. Only you can define what is consistent with your spiritual path and what is not. And you can find your answers from the wisest teacher of them all, life - the Way. That's what our entire spiritual journey is about, to find our way home on a path that works for us. And given that we all come from very different starting points, your soul searching process has to be an unique experience. Don't be so quick to rule things out, after all, riding a horse in the wrong direction can also tell you something about your true Self. "Not this, not that" is the way to proceed home.

There is one problem statement that will always be there. We are wired to experience a "thrill to sin". By pushing against the boundaries of what we perceive to be right, we in fact  jump-start our blood circulation, our stress hormones and our brain chemicals and they give us the pleasure ride we enjoy so much and sometimes even get addicted to. This duality doesn't have to be there. You can very much step out of it by ignoring it. This voice is the same as the nagging whisper that tells you to be afraid or that you are simply not good enough.

But don't ignore your feelings either. A spiritual traveler wants to go home and you can only accomplish that if you bring all aspects of your being along. Life - the Tao - can do this for you. Life is tailored for you to bring mind, heart and feelings along on this journey. Walking the Way makes you whole. Dance with life, be bold, be entrepreneurial and go with the beat. You are "there" when you have the realization that everything you ever wanted you already have. Who knows, perhaps your blessed wake-up moment is now. Enjoy riding that dark horse into the sunset.