There is a saying: “Truth sets us frees!” It’s meaning is simple, yet few truly understand it.
Take anger as an example. “I am angry at this person because he is not good to me. He is not considerate, and I begin to feel angry. In truth, I wish he would be good to me and do things the way I want. If he doesn’t, I feel that he does not love me. I don’t want to face this feeling, so I express it as anger.”
So, what is the truth behind this? The truth is: I do not want him to stop loving me. I do not want him to be indifferent to me. I long for his love. When I cannot receive it, I feel pain, emptiness, and loneliness. Deep down, it is not anger that is difficult to face—it is loneliness and emptiness.
If we are able to face the feelings of loneliness and emptiness directly, anger dissolves immediately. Until we face them, we take many actions driven by anger and waste a great deal of energy. The moment we meet these feelings honestly, resistance stops, and our energy becomes strong instantly. This is how anger is transcended.
So, the truth is not the anger itself, but our unwillingness to face emptiness and loneliness. When we face this truth directly, struggle, inner conflict, pain, and even confrontation naturally come to an end. There is no longer a need to waste energy.
By Suzhen Liu
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