Do Past Injuries Decide Our Destiny?

 We all got a lot of injuries in our family. Our destiny will develop according to these injuries. For example, when parents cannot praise their child, the child will lack confidence and will keep wanting to prove himself in relationships or life. This attitude to prove himself will trap him and consume his energy. No matter how often he has proven himself, he still lacks confidence. This destiny arises because he experienced injuries in relationships.

 

So are the people who are abused by their parents. They may get scared when others speak a little louder and react from fear. It is difficult for them to have an easy life and cannot trust others. They always feel lonely and have a feeling of not belonging. They keep stuck experiencing these injuries. If you cannot see these adverse influences from your childhood and manage to heal yourself, you will keep cycling, caught either with the desire to prove yourself or reacting from fear. People who witness the fighting of their parents will transfer the same traumas into their own marriage. When people are stuck in this cycle, they are in pain because of what they do or think. Also, their relationships function under these injuries and they cannot break through from them.

 

If we don’t heal these injuries, we cannot start the soul’s evolution. If we can heal ourselves through family constellations, it will be easier for us to move forward. Why do we carry these injuries?  Because our memories remember these injuries and prevent us from distinguishing between now and then. Also, most of the time, these injuries are not limited to this present generation, maybe they go back to past generations or are a repeating injury in the family. If we don ‘t heal these injuries, they will keep repeating themselves. So it is important for us to heal these injuries. Healing is important since otherwise our consciousness will be stuck with these injuries and cannot move forward. Our soul’s evolution, not to mention freedom, depends on it!

 

We will carry these injuries in our deeper consciousness and close ourselves. When we close ourselves with these injuries, the pain will be endless.

 

Our parents hurt us without any awareness. Maybe these injuries are from their parents, or their thinking patterns created these injuries. We cannot transcend these injuries as an individual. The whole family is a unit; every family member contributes to the whole. These injuries are related, for example, we will hurt our parents after we were injured. We refuse them, or when someone in our family suffers and we want to save them, we will suffer too. These interactions create layers of injuries and form the energy of a family unit. This energy will keep repeating itself and become the main theme of a family and fate. Most of the time our development will follow this energy. If we don’t heal this energy and this energy is stuck, we will cycle in these areas and repeat the pain.

 

When we present the energy of the family in a family constellation, family members can heal their relationship and set the energy free. At the same time, you will have insights and these insights will bring healing and your life will be renewed.

 

 

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Universal Love

 In Universal Love there is no “I”. Compassion (=sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings and misfortunes of others) is at best an approximation of this dimension of Oneness, as is romantic love. In Awareness, attachments and aversions are at worst registered but simply looked through. Universal Love acts in choice-less awareness.

A spiritual quest is some sort of ongoing spring cleaning in time in which remaining interferences to Universal Love are understood and let go of, but there is no progress along a spiritual quest. We are born in Universal Love and we shall return to Universal Love. Spiritual living is nothing but the clearing up of a few misunderstandings and misperceptions.

#love #compassion #spirituality #awakening #awareness #oneness 

See what “you” don’t see!

 Ramana Maharshi was a young man when he suddenly felt like he was dying. He stayed conscious as his body appeared to shut down and asked himself the question, what remains when the body is not? He discovered non-duality in that break-through moment.

Eckhart Tolle was a student who fell into a deep depression. One day he felt like a vortex was descending on him and was sucking him in. The next morning he woke up as a transformed man. It took him a while to study spirituality to find the language in order to share what happened to him.

Isn’t it interesting that two of the giants of spirituality never consciously set out to become enlightened? These spiritual break-throughs just happened to them and then made it their mission to share their insights with others. The subconscious does the heavy lifting in the Awakening process.

How can we see what we don’t see? How can the conscious 20 percent in the iceberg analogy steer the unseen 80 percent drifting in the water? Actually, it’s the other way around. The unseen 80 percent is carrying us along! Wake up to this fact and you see what the “you” doesn’t see. That’s spiritual living. 

#ramanamaharshi #eckharttolle #subconscious #spirituality #awakening #adyashanti

Seeing the Whole Through a Single Thought

 (A student asked: “While practicing martial arts, I suddenly felt like crying halfway through. Should I keep focusing on the movements? In the past, I would ignore my emotions and continue doing the exercise.”)

 

When you feel like crying, why do you need to ask me whether you should continue practicing or go cry? If there is something you genuinely want to do, why do you need permission?

 

(Student: “Because at that moment, I thought I should hurry up and finish the assignment.”)

 

And then cry afterward?

 

(Student: “Yes. But later I no longer felt like crying.”)

 

There is no standard answer here. The important thing is that through this moment, you can see a pattern: often, you ignore your true feelings. You may even fail to value your genuine emotions. When your feelings come into conflict with family members or circumstances, you may habitually choose to suppress your own experience.

 

Do you think that creates problems?

 

(Student: “Yes.”)

 

It can. The problem tends to keep extending itself because this has become your habitual way of responding.

 

If you do not understand or adjust this mental pattern, what we call karma begins accumulating little by little from this very place. Over time, what builds up between two people may become resentment, anger, and bitterness—gathering layer upon layer.

 

You keep compressing yourself, storing up anger and grievances. Eventually, this may manifest as verbal attacks, harsh criticism, or a sharp, cutting tone in your speech.

 

(Student: “Yes. Becoming aggressive, saying hurtful things, or even making threats.”)

 

Exactly. It accumulates bit by bit. Once this pattern has solidified into part of your personality, it becomes very difficult to change. In relationships, anger, jealousy, and resentment continue to build.

 

This resentment can form a deeply tangled knot that is difficult to untie. The more challenging part is that you do not know how to resolve it, and at the same time, you continue creating more of it. Eventually, feeling helpless, you may begin searching for the meaning of life itself. In reality, this is often a projection of the problem or a way of shifting your attention away from it.

 

You may feel that you have already given so much, always considered others, and even sacrificed and suppressed yourself. Yet despite all that, you still cannot receive respect from others or even the basic experience of being seen and acknowledged.

 

In the end, this pattern can leave you feeling trapped, helpless, and unable to find meaning in life. At the same time, you may find nothing that truly offers comfort or support.

 

The root of the problem is that you do not understand the process we have just been discussing. This process is actually the beginning of karmic creation. The resentment and jealousy generated within a situation, if not expressed verbally, may eventually take the form of violence.

 

(Student: “Yes. One day I suddenly felt like hitting and kicking my husband. The thought just appeared, and the feeling came with it.”)

 

This is how suffering continues to accumulate.

 

The fact that you could feel this way toward your husband reveals that this pattern already exists within your consciousness. It is the very mechanism through which karma is created. The moment such thoughts arise, you have already entered into that suffering.

 

Even so, there is still a way through it.

 

The place to begin is with your intentions—the very first movement of the mind. You need to clearly see the reason you create karma, the thought that starts the process. Understanding that is the first step toward liberation.

 

Suzhen Liu

 

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The power of observing

 The question is not what to do; the question is how to see. The question is not of changing your character, the question is not to become more good, to become more saintly, to be less a sinner – no, that is not the question. The question is: how to see without mind, how to see without choice. The question is not concerned with doing and action, the question is concerned with the quality of awareness. 

Osho

Eckhart Tolle says you are the one listening to your thoughts and in a way he is correct, but in a way this statement can also be misleading. The observer can be a cleverly constructed part of our conditioned self—a spiritual super ego that claims to know what is “right” and what is “wrong.” It feels spiritual to observe thoughts, feelings and actions, but in reality we never leave the world of duality behind.

Observing is the answer. It’s a total acceptance of the prevailing energy in the moment at hand, and the act of observing transforms the frequency without ever connecting with the illusionary entity that wants things to be different than they are. Observing is the Holy Grail of spirituality. So what is the practice? Observe when “you” are getting lost in thought, feeling and action and observe the observer too!

Settling into Silence

 Spread your sitting bones.

 

Gently turn your right sitting bone outward by lifting your right thigh slightly, rotating it outward, and then placing it back down. Repeat the same movement with your left sitting bone.

 

Allow your tailbone to open and lengthen, then settle your weight down naturally.

 

This posture helps us sit comfortably for longer periods without placing unnecessary strain on the hips, spine, or sitting bones.

 

Once seated, lean your body forward slightly, about 15 degrees. Rest your hands on your thighs, between your knees and hips, about two-thirds of the way down.

 

Relax your shoulders.

 

Whenever you have a few moments at home—even just five or ten minutes—you can sit in this way.

 

Relax your shoulders.

 

Lengthen your spine.

 

Do not let your head drop forward. Gently lift the crown of your head and allow your spine to straighten naturally.

 

Then relax into the posture you have created.

 

Let your eyes close softly.

 

Listen to the sounds around you.

 

Relax your shoulders.

 

Listen again.

 

Do not listen only with your ears; listen with your heart.

 

Allow your heart to be with the sounds around you.

 

Quiet your mind and simply listen.

 

Listen quietly to the sounds surrounding you.

 

Notice the voice in your mind.

 

Be with that voice.

 

Being with it does not mean identifying with it or believing it. Simply allow it to be present.

 

Notice whatever pain, emotions, or thoughts arise.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

This silence is medicine. It has the power to free us from suffering.

 

Notice what feelings emerge. Notice what inner voices arise.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

This silence transcends everything.

 

Be present with whatever thoughts surface.

 

This silence is a blessing in itself.

 

This silence is love itself.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

Be present with whatever feelings arise.

 

Even when the feelings are uncomfortable or negative, allow them to be here.

 

Simply be present with your experience.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

This silence is light.

 

This light is always surrounding us.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

We are this silence.

 

We are this light.

 

Silence is always present. It belongs neither to you nor to me.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

Be present with this moment.

 

Be present with your happiness.

 

Be present with your pain.

 

Be present with your anger.

 

This silence is spacious enough to embrace it all.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

If, after returning home, healing pain or emotional discomfort arises, sit quietly in this way.

 

If you feel overwhelmed, you may gently speak your letting-go phrases.

 

Whenever you encounter obstacles, pain, confusion, or uncertainty, return to this silence.

 

The power that resides within silence is greater than any help we can receive from the outside.

 

Rest here.

 

Quiet your mind.

 

And allow silence to guide you home.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her latest book, “Discover Love Within—Release your Suffering,” available on Amazon

 

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