Humans heal and learn while being is

 Simply return, again and again.

Come back to what is Real.

Come back to what is untouched,

what is untainted and unharmed

by the comings and goings of the world.

Amoda Maa

In ancient China there was a rift between the school of the north which emphasized gradualism when it came to Awakening and the south which postulated instantaneous breaking free.

Gradualism is the understanding that our mind is a neural network and enabling synapses have to be acquired to develop a mindset of love, abundance and equanimity, whereas the school of the south points to the eternal mind which always is.

Mediumship and mind confusion coexists. That’s why we are referred to as human beings. We humans can heal and learn but being is. A spiritual quest is healing and learning in-between the being. Both schools have something to add.

However, the drive to be free here and now needs to stay strong. Stagnation is regression. We are catapulted on a life journey to break free and any interference that we allow to linger is detrimental to our health and wellbeing.  

Being is—it’s human to have healing and learning opportunities but the opportunity to return to what is Real, untouched, untainted and unharmed exists moment by moment. 

The Space Where Love is Free

 Many people insist that their partners should be completely loyal to them. However, these same individuals often encounter infidelity in their relationships and, as a result, suffer deeply.

 

Can someone truly be loyal to another? Here, I am referring to the mind rather than behavior. It is difficult to control one’s consciousness, as it is easily influenced by countless internal and external factors. Is it possible that we are simply demanding loyalty from others? When we make such demands, can we also turn inward and examine ourselves?

 

When we discover that someone has been unfaithful, we suffer—not merely because of the infidelity, but because our expectation of loyalty has been shattered. We become attached to this expectation and insist that others fulfill it. This longing for loyalty extends beyond romantic relationships; we may also expect it from friends, coworkers, or even clients. In this way, our desire for loyalty can become an obstacle in many forms of connection.

 

Can we see that our suffering arises not from others’ infidelity, but from our insistence on loyalty? What is the difference between these two perspectives? Often, there is an image in our minds: if someone has only us in their eyes, we will feel happy and secure. This inner image drives our demand for loyalty. The question, then, is whether we can see through this illusion or continue to expect others to meet it.

 

No one likes to be forced. When we demand loyalty, the other person may feel pressured, and their natural reaction may be to withdraw. However, when we are able to observe ourselves and refrain from imposing such demands, the other may choose to stay of their own accord. This is simply the natural flow of relationships.

 

When we transcend our attachments and rise beyond these inner obstacles, not only do we free ourselves from suffering, but others may also feel drawn closer to us. The way energy functions in human relationships is truly remarkable. The key lies in whether we are willing to move beyond our own limitations.

 

By Suzhen Liu

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her latest book “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering,” available on Amazon.

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Awareness of being unaware is Awareness

 The saying goes, the mind replays what the heart wants to heal. Our thoughts, feelings and the events we attract express our stored pain body, our fears and aspirations. We are always Awareness but as we dream, desire and sweat, we automatically get pulled into our instinctive reactions. In those moments, our interfering inner energy knots and outer triggers run us so to speak and our divine presence gets sucked into the storyline.

Sometimes we learn, sometimes we heal and sometimes we repeat. There are too many memories, past-life experiences and collective human energies to remove these healing opportunities one by one. The trick is to stay with the unfolding thought, feeling and occurrence until it has communicated the root cause. We see the issue flower and whither away from the beginning to the end. When we are aware of being unaware and stay with it, Awareness remains.

To Understand is to Let Go

 When I was young, I loved sports cars. Yet the moment I thought about how much they cost, I would immediately give up. Then came the next wave of thoughts: How much would maintenance cost? How much would I need to earn to afford one? One thought after another kept surfacing.

 

If I had not understood this inner process, I would never have noticed the thoughts shaping my experience. At times I followed my desire; at other times I suppressed it. On the one hand, I believed I could not afford it. On the other, I deeply wanted it. I remained caught in a state of inner conflict.

 

Desire is part of the ego’s nature. Whenever desire appears, the ego interferes—creating issues, resistance, and many forms of struggle. In practicing letting go, we must pay attention to how these struggles are formed, how they arise, and how the sense of “I” is thinking. What beliefs are operating underneath? We need to see them clearly so we can make peace with them rather than be controlled by them.

 

I do not try to get rid of these thoughts. I simply stay present with them. I do not blame them, nor do I run away from them. With this attitude, we begin to see our obstacles clearly. The tension loosens, and what was stuck begins to flow.

 

The moment we hold an intention—wanting to fix ourselves, improve ourselves, or asking, “What should I do?”—we often fall into another trap. That very intention can cause the struggle to resurface again and again.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering,” available on Amazon.

 

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732

The still onlooker

 Oneness is not hard to grasp. In stillness we are part of it. What is hard is to be still when the situation requires it. A skilled meditation practitioner can fall into stillness at will but it’s a temporary fix. As the eyes open again the mind confusion returns.

What can be done? Look at the mental and emotional noise in life’s capriciousness with curiosity. We cannot force ourselves to be still but we can be a still onlooker. Muddy water turns clear when you let it settle—so does mind fog.

Where Love Begins

 When people hear that they need to go deeper in their learning, some may feel reluctant, or think,” Why should I? I’m not the one who did something wrong.”

 

The moment this thought arises, we place harmony in our relationship outside the door.

 

In intimate relationships, being “right” does not bring happiness. If we define our interactions through the lens of right and wrong, we push away true happiness and stability, and we close off genuine connection between hearts.

 

What remains then is loneliness and isolation. This is not the kind of loneliness felt when you are alone, but the kind that comes when your heart can no longer merge with the hearts of your loved ones.

 

It can also be said that when we are truly willing to explore and understand our partner relationship, it becomes one of the greatest opportunities for growth and awakening in life.

 

This realization can bring meaning and a deep sense of security to our lives. And when we reach this level of understanding, the soul naturally experiences a sense of steadiness, happiness, and joy—something the material world can never provide.

 

The core reason relationships become stuck is that we withdraw from the very beginning, and from the start we make a judgment of who is right and who is wrong.

 

Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering,” available on Amazon.

 

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732

End compulsion today

 Over the last few days there was a lot of activity on my blog on addictions and cravings. This has happened before. I figure we are at some inflection point where some people break free while others continue with their destructive patterns until the next auspicious opening occurs. 

We have always access to the portal connecting us with the higher Power. When we engage in mind numbing activities—leaving aside the body harm, alienation, neurological bondage, and waste of time, energy and money—there is an inner knowledge that knows we can do much better. We mind!

On the flip side, when we appeal to our so-perceived higher self and promise to do better in the future, there is also an inner pain body that feels overlooked and judged. That’s why there is a vicious counter-attack whenever our energy is low and the pain body comes to the surface. Breaking a compulsive habit is hard.