Tuesday, August 11, 2026

Most of the problems in relationships come from fear

 Because of fear, many issues and conflicts arise. For example, when someone says to us, “You did a terrible job,” or “You’re not good enough,” and other words of denial or criticism, we naturally feel hurt and uncomfortable.

 

When the heart becomes heavy and unhappy, our whole life is affected by these emotions. If these reactions are not clearly understood, they continue to accumulate. Over time, the problems remain unresolved, and we become trapped in a dilemma, unable to move forward or backward.

 

If we look closely at this process, we can see that it often begins when we feel unaccepted or unrecognized. From there, many psychological struggles gradually build up and extend deeper within us, eventually leading to illness or physical imbalance.

 

When we are afraid of other people’s judgments, the real issue is not about how good we are or how much we achieve. It is the fear itself that keeps us stuck.

 

Outer situations are reflections and extensions of our inner interpretations. If we can return to our own heart, harmony in relationships can come very quickly.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her latest book, “Discover Love Within—Release your suffering,” available on Amazon

 

Monday, August 10, 2026

Stillness ensues when the rubber meets the road

 You can teach yourself to be that silence that observes conditioned self go back and forth. The Stoics invented it thousands of years ago in Ancient Greece. It may appear spiritual but it is not quite the here and now. In the present moment the rubber meets the road while being in the center of the wheel watching it spin.


You have to jump into the present moment and let the stillness take over. It’s an alertness, it’s an openness, it’s an equanimity to the outcome. One cannot analyze conditioned self as the analyzer is the analyzed, but one can notice how the present moment sustains conditioned self just as conditioned self invites the moment at hand.


Stillness ensues as the heat of the moment is embraced to the fullest.


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Sunday, August 9, 2026

Meditation on Being Present

 Now find a quiet place and sit comfortably. You may choose to sit cross-legged or in any position that feels natural for you. Gently close your eyes and breathe naturally.

 

Move your shoulders slightly and notice whether they are tense. If they are, allow them to relax.

 

It is very important to relax the body. If the body is tense, we are not meditating—we are fighting. When the body relaxes, we become open and receptive to a deeper dimension of awareness.

 

Bring your attention to your body. Is there any tension? Allow it to soften naturally.

 

Have you ever noticed that when we are asleep, the body is in its most relaxed state? When we are deeply relaxed, where are our worries, obstacles, and suffering?

 

As the body relaxes, it becomes easier to observe the mind. Much of our pain and suffering is sustained by our thoughts.

 

Once again, bring your attention to the body and allow it to relax.

 

We can truly connect with the present moment only when the energy of the body is relaxed. Insight arises naturally when we become open and receptive.

 

Relax the body and remain attentive and aware.

 

When the body is relaxed, our energy returns to its natural state. The original state of awakening is a state of naturalness. If something is attained solely through effort, it is not the effortless presence of our true nature.

 

Relax your shoulders. Relax your entire body.

 

If any thoughts arise, simply be present with them. Just be present.

 

The moment we are present with our thoughts, we begin to discover something. Insight naturally emerges.

 

What happens to our thoughts when we are fully present with them? Where do they go?

 

When we are present with our confusion and obstacles, what happens to them? Are they still the same? Do they begin to change?

 

Whenever a change arises, pay attention to it as well. This attention is presence itself. When we are present, pain and worry begin to transform.

 

Why do they change? Why do they disappear? If they were truly solid and permanent, why would they dissolve? If they were absolutely real, why would they constantly change?

 

Relax the body once more. Notice how thoughts continually arise, change, and dissolve.

 

Simply follow whatever arises and remain present with the pain, fear, or obstacles. As we continue to stay present, we eventually come into contact with a vast and timeless emptiness—the unchanging nature that has always been here, yet has long been forgotten.

 

What we are doing is not striving to become something. Rather, we are uncovering what has always been here. The obstacles that obscure our true nature are like coverings over a lamp. We do not need to create the light; we only need to remove what conceals it.

 

Once again, bring your attention to the body and allow it to relax.

 

The body, the mind, and the ego carry anxiety, memories, difficulties, and accumulated burdens from life. As the body relaxes, these energies gradually recede.

 

At this moment, if we observe our worries and problems carefully, we may discover that much of our suffering comes from attachment—from insisting that life should unfold according to our preferences and expectations.

 

These thoughts, expectations, fears, and worries veil the natural state of present awareness.

 

Bring your attention back to the body and relax it.

 

When the body relaxes, the state of presence arises naturally.

 

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her latest book, “Discover Love Within—Release your suffering,” available on Amazon

 

Saturday, August 8, 2026

Peace and contentment

 I woke up at 4:30am this morning after a good night’s sleep and felt content. It’s amazing, thoughts do not get activated when we feel that nothing is missing. I tried investigating what makes this feeling come about, and sure, some support of circumstances seems to matter like having the financial means, being in a supportive relationship, good health, the situation our loved ones are in, etc., but it’s more than that. A necessary condition seems to be to have a pure heart. It’s like an energy circuit runs though the heart chakra keeping the mind in a state of vibrancy but stillness.


I read suggestions from our spiritual community of how we are not our thoughts but at the time when the thoughts are flowing it’s already too late—the thinker is the thought! In silence, the thinker disappears. In thought the thinker is still an insight away from peace and contentment. 


Thursday, August 6, 2026

The Turning Point of Awareness

 When we are able to relax the body, a different quality of the awareness begins to emerge. The clarity, peace, and stillness that guide us no longer come from the thinking mind, but from a deeper dimension of our being. It is through this experience that we truly begin to understand what it means to be present.

 

Many friends who learn with me know that I seldom speak about theory. Over the years, I have observed that theory mainly works on the level of the mind—the cognitive part of us. We may be convinced by an idea for a few hours or even a few days, but before long we often return to our familiar obstacles, habits, and even karmic patterns.

 

That is why I feel the most direct path is not through accumulating more concepts, but through being present with our obstacles. When we stay present with what arises, those very obstacles can lead us beyond the limitations of the mind.

 

Through this simple practice, we can enter very deep places within ourselves. Yet it is not as difficult as we often imagine. The first step is simply to relax the body.

 

As we relax, the mind begins to reveal its activity. Thoughts arise. Worries surface. Obstacles appear. The key is whether we can notice them at the moment they arise. This is the turning point. It is the moment when we have the opportunity to move beyond the mind rather than becoming entangled in it.

 

As we continue in this direction, we gradually come to understand the true meaning of presence. We begin to enter a state of being rather than merely functioning through thought. In that state, clarity, peace, and wisdom arise naturally, guiding us from within.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her latest book, “Discover Love Within—Release your suffering,” available on Amazon

 

 https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering-ebook/dp/B0G4L29MVN


Undivided moments (video)

We have many undivided moments which exist in contrast to “the story of me.” Become aware of being. When we are really sensitive we can see the sacred in the mundane, and when “the story of me” gains the upper hand again, mindfulness is the portal connecting us with the undivided moment.

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Wednesday, August 5, 2026

From Limitation to Wholeness

 In our lives, we often define ourselves through a series of limitations: I don’t have enough, like, I don’t have wealth for example, or I don’t have someone who truly loves me, I don’t have a place where I belong, I don’t have enough money, etc.

 

These beliefs are quietly planted deep within us from a very young age, often without our awareness.

 

These inner settings are woven from pain and reside in the deepest layers of our hearts. They permeate every aspect of our lives.

 

We live within the boundaries created by these beliefs, as though we have locked ourselves inside a prison of our own making.

 

By Suzhen Liu