Healing with Family Energy Work and Letting Go

 We experience positive and negative energy. We reject the pain and the negative and want more of the positive. Negative and positive coexist. We cannot have one without the other. Yet, pain only exists if we don’t understand that and reject the “bad” that comes with the “good.”

With the Letting Go practice we can break through the knowledge that “good” and “bad” are two sides of the same coin. Key of this method is not to get rid of what we don’t want. It’s about breaking through to the level where we can embrace the negative as well as the positive. At this level we transcend the pain.

A woman asked me for help. She had lost what she thought was the true love of her life. She said she just can’t let go of him. I asked her to meditate on what makes him so special and after a few minutes an image of her parents fighting popped up. She laughed. The fact that he was nice to her made him so special. After growing up in this contentious household she reasoned that being nice must be a measure of true love. Family energy was ruling her life, and discovering and knowing these belief sets that we carry around allows us to penetrate that level of serenity where peace prevails. 

Letting Go exercises and Family Energy practices dig up some painful memories and uncomfortable energies, but this work is essential if we like to break through to a deeper level of consciousness. When the energy runs smoothly we are not making any efforts. The difficulties will still present themselves. They are part of life, but we are no longer affected by them. When we perceive “negative” energy, a first reaction is to get rid of it. We need to pause and stop!

By Suzhen Liu 

Feel to heal—See to be (video)

 I am greedy, J. Krishnamurti says in a presentation and the audience accepts that we have our greedy moment but want to know how to overcome greed. That’s duality, and with it comes a loss of energy as we deviate from what is. The solution is in zooming into the conflict. Feel to heal in the moment the inner energy imbalance presents itself. See to be—zoom into the ego games to prevent that unpleasant encounter. 

https://youtu.be/gAzfPBL0QUk?si=uzUv18UOLExMF45M

Part human, part divine

 There was a Rabbi who had a piece of paper in each pocket. In the one pocket it read, “dust in the wind,” in the other “made of stardust.” 

Likewise, there is nothing wrong with being human. Our memories, fears and aspirations create our life work we were born to perform.

The opportunity is to keep track of the calling of the Way. When in doubt who is steering ask, and know, sense, feel and see the Way.

The lesson of the broken clock

 They say a broken clock is right twice a day. Likewise, I don’t know if you have noticed that when we are cycling between the Real and the conditioned, there is always this moment when 

S (ilence)

E (nergy)

L (ove)

F (low)

prevail.

Maybe it is because the conditioned self exhausts itself in the struggle to keep the illusion upright. Maybe it is because there is an honest bone even in the impostor self identity. No matter the reason, take this 

knowing 

sensing 

feeling 

seeing 

as the baseline for the next self-induced interference and returning to S-E-L-F becomes as natural as breathing itself.

Connect with life’s flow and be!

 We lose awareness 

when our thoughts arise 

and we react to these thoughts.

We think and feel we are the thinker.

We are told we are the observer of this mental game.

Yet, deep inside we are the creator and the manifestor

of this “body, mind, world matrix”—we exist in Awareness.

Who am I and what can I do?

Be the observer of the mental game.

See how this world triggers “you” and 

how your thinking affects the world in return.

Connect with life’s flow and be!

“I Am” is in charge and I am along for the ride!

 You cannot control your mind because 

the controller is the mind!

Who am I then and 

what to do?

Listen to your body!

Feel and sense energy!

Observe your thoughts!

Perceive your environment!

“Life as is” shines through as 

the “body, mind, world matrix” 

is understood and looked through.

“I Am” is in charge—I am along for the ride.

On real healing

 To gaze directly into your pain

is to discover your true strength.

 

When you turn toward the ache

of not being seen,

of feeling alone,

these energies must be allowed

to pass through you.

Ignored emotions do not disappear;

they sink, gather, and tighten within.

 

Real healing comes

when you walk through the feeling,

cell by cell,

allowing the emotion to rise, move,

and complete its journey.

Only then are you no longer shaped

or shaken

by the force it once held over you.

 

Strength is not born

from denying your emotions

or pretending they do not matter.

Such avoidance has no weight,

no grounding.

Strength arises

only when you fully experience

what is asking to be felt.

 

For example—

If you have long felt unseen

or unacknowledged by your parents,

once you truly move through that wound,

clarity comes.

You understand why they behaved

as they did,

and you no longer fall

into the old feelings

of exclusion or rejection.

 

And later,

when someone important to you

overlooks you,

your inner state remains steady.

This is growth—

the quiet, essential expansion.

 

Because you cannot control

how others treat you,

and you never will.

But you can learn

to walk through your own shadows,

to rise on the other side

lighter, freer, and whole.

 

By Suzanne Yang