The Invisible Forces That Shape Our Life

 Have you ever wondered what drives our recurring suffering? This is a question worth exploring.

 

Many forms of long-lasting suffering are connected either to family energy or to our belief systems. Very often, they arise from a combination of both. When we become aware of what lies beneath our repeated behaviors, the suffering they produce can dissolve naturally, without force or struggle.

 

Unresolved family energy tends to repeat itself across generations until someone is brave enough to face it and untangle the entangled emotions.

 

For example, I once met a very wealthy man from Malaysia. When he was young, he witnessed his father betray his mother and keep a mistress. Seeing how deeply this hurt his mother, he grew to resent his father for it. Yet later in life, he unknowingly repeated the same pattern and also took a mistress.

 

This is a classic example of inter-generational trauma. It is almost as if life leads us to repeat our parents’ fate so that we may eventually understand that they, too, were driven by invisible forces. In many cases, their actions were not entirely within their conscious control.

 

Another powerful force that keeps us repeating the same suffering is our belief system.

 

For instance, if someone believes that happiness can only come from being with the “right” partner, that belief may drive them to constantly seek a new relationship whenever difficulties arise. Yet few people realize that life naturally includes both ups and downs. Challenges will appear whether we are with the “right” person or not.

 

When this belief goes unquestioned, it can lead someone to leave one relationship after another whenever life becomes difficult—ironically creating even more suffering in the process.

 

So the question becomes, are these invisible forces quietly shaping the choices you make in your life?

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

 

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Chipping away at four corners of S-E-L-F to get to the circle of Oneness

 I discovered four dimensions of spiritual practice that all lead to the same portal connecting us with a higher dimension of being.

S (tillness): the psychological self comes to a rest as conditioned mind grasps its own limitation.

E (nergy): activation of chi/kundalini energy, lighting up all seven energy centers of our body.

L (ove): heart centered action eclipses the prior mind centered way of doing things.

F (low): the outer energies finally align with the inner. As within so without absent of self involvement.

It doesn’t matter where we start. Eventually all four dimensions of S-E-L-F are expressed in Oneness.

The Nature of Heaven

 Life is full of uncertainty and cannot be predicted but we always want to be sure. It’s impossible! Just because it is impossible, the feeling of wanting to be sure drives us to do something to make us feel safe, giving us a feeling of belonging and security. We want to harbor our mind over there. We want to build a heaven and work hard to get there so that we can forget about our insecurities.  This “mental heaven” is the way we try to escape and transfer our fears.

 

Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732

The God Channel

 It was 4:40 am. I had caught up on what some of my friends had posted overnight. Dawn was already breaking as we approach the summer solstice. I opened the balcony door, closed my eyes and listened to the birds. Amazingly, despite having closed my eyes, there was so much light! That’s when I felt that vibration. Spiritual living is staying with this vibration no matter what happens in our life. We know the activities, people and occasions who appear in this vibration, just as we know the ones who disconnect us from our birthright. Spiritual living is staying with the God Channel 24/7. Everything else a higher Power does through “you”.

Only Humility Allows Learning

 The moment my father was buried, I understood many things.

 

At that time the burial was done in the traditional way. When the coffin was lowered into the ground, a sudden realization arose within me: all the wealth, all the effort, all the striving in life—this is where it eventually leads.

 

My father had worked hard his entire life. He was a businessman who made a great deal of money. Even in his sixties he was still striving and working tirelessly. He rarely allowed himself to truly rest or enjoy life. Every day was filled with pressure and responsibility. He lived with seriousness and effort.

 

Only two months before his illness did he finally stop working.

 

He had spent his life accumulating so much, yet in the end he was buried just like this.

 

As I stood there, I wondered: during all those years of struggle and achievement, what kind of life had he really lived? There was hardly a day when he was completely relaxed. Day after day he lived under stress.

 

In that moment something inside me suddenly became very clear.

 

If all my effort in life were only for material gain, and in the end it would all come to this, then what would be the true meaning of my efforts?

 

At that time I was only twenty-seven years old. I was still full of ambition. I wanted to make money. I wanted to find a good husband. I wanted wealth, beautiful things, and famous brands.

 

But in that moment, all of those desires collapsed.

 

I realized that if I spent my life exhausting my energy chasing these things, only to arrive at the same ending, then what meaning would such effort really have?

 

It was then that I began to understand something deeply:

 

Every event that happens in our lives can become our greatest teacher.

 

If we are able to learn from the events that happen to us, then even our suffering can lead us toward awakening. In this way, suffering itself becomes a doorway to liberation.

 

What happens in our lives is our teacher.

 

But if we are arrogant and unwilling to be humble, we cannot see the Way. We cannot see that the teacher is already present within the very events we experience.

 

Only Humility Allows Learning

 

What we are learning together is to cultivate a heart that can see the events of our lives as our teachers, and to approach them with humility and reverence.

 

Only when we respect what has happened can we truly learn from it.

 

Knowledge, theories, and concepts may sound impressive, but in moments like these they are completely useless.

 

What truly matters is your realization—your clarity in that very moment.

 

This process is one of the most meaningful journeys in life. Whether we gain wisdom from it depends on our ability to see.

 

True wisdom arises when we can free ourselves from fear. When we are no longer afraid, we can recognize that our teacher is standing right in front of us. Only then can we truly learn.

 

One day, each of us will face death. Because of this, learning to face death is an important part of life.

 

Through it we begin to understand what ending truly means.

 

In fact, the essence of life lies in understanding ending—death itself.

 

When we learn with humility, we begin to discover that every day of our lives already contains lessons about death. Life continuously teaches us about endings—about letting go.

 

This is the path we are learning.

 

Change does not happen instantly just because someone says something profound. Transformation occurs slowly, step by step, according to the depth of our realization.

 

Yet one thing is essential: a humble heart.

 

Humility is not about being humble toward a teacher. It is about being humble toward your own life—toward your problems, your pain, and your struggles.

 

Only those who can face their own lives with humility can truly become free.

 

Learning is not about blindly following another person. That is not real learning.

 

Real learning comes from your willingness to face your own inner pain and fear.

 

If we cannot develop this humility, then freedom is impossible.

 

Because when we remain arrogant—when we try to conquer our pain, resist it, or reject it—we cannot learn from it.

 

And then we miss the opportunity to understand one of the most sacred truths of life:

 

the truth of ending.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732

Energy flip

 It happened again. That flip in energy that I first experienced in early 2008, and that accompanied on and off since. The mind is quiet and vibrant. Heart-centered energy is pulsating, and somehow magically, the inner energies align with the outer.  Why do we have to spend years fluctuating between two worlds of (imagined) self manifestation and the mystery of 

S (tillness)

E (nergy)

L (ove)

F (low).

I wouldn’t know actually, other than observing that Awakening is a honeymoon period when we receive what we are, but that it is often followed by a little clean-up process when we have to face, understand and let go of what we are not. 

Spirituality 1.0 happens when we get tired looking for happiness in the material world. Spirituality 2.0 occurs with the energy flip, when the heart-energy replaces the preoccupation of our modern part of the brain, the neocortex. 

A friend told me about his big breakthrough. He had been a hard core seeker for years and eventually became so tired that he wanted to commit suicide. God didn’t let this happen. While visiting his family he fainted and when he returned he had an out-of-body experience that lasted weeks. His energy switch was entirely subconscious in nature but all the years of seeking set him up for it.

The point is that everyone eventually makes it to the other side. Everyone who starts following the glimpses of light that point to a world beyond the self-inflicted realities shall be bathing in it when the transition is complete. Until then keep chipping away with the help of mindfulness and devotion. A flip of energy is always but a step away.

“Following” in the Family Energy System

 In family energy systems, there is a commonly observed phenomenon known as “following.”

 

“Following” refers to the situation in which, after one member of a family passes away, another family member often dies not long afterward. This pattern appears in many families, and it has also occurred in my own family.

 

In an earlier article, I mentioned that my father once collapsed and was sent to the intensive care unit. After that incident, his mobility became limited, and he was eventually placed in a nursing home. At the time, I was living in Hong Kong, and my family did not tell me what had happened.

 

Interestingly, during that same period, I myself also experienced difficulties with mobility.

 

Around the same time that my father fell ill, one of my half-sisters suddenly suffered a stroke and was also sent to the intensive care unit. She remained in the hospital for a year before gradually recovering. Another half-sister passed away quietly in her sleep a few months later.

 

In many families, we can observe similar situations: after one family member passes away, another member may follow a few months later.

 

From these phenomena, we can begin to see something important: people who belong to the same family energy system are deeply interconnected and influence one another. However, for most people, this influence is invisible and difficult to understand.

 

In another article about family energy systems, I once used a metaphor: a family is like a pot of soup, and each family member is like an ingredient in that soup. Every ingredient contributes to the overall flavor of the soup, while at the same time each ingredient is also influenced by the soup as a whole.

 

In other words, each of us lives within the energetic field of our family. The joys, sorrows, unresolved pain, and even the destinies within a family often flow among its members and subtly affect one another. Yet most of the time, we are not aware that we are being influenced by these forces.

 

Many people unconsciously carry the emotions, destinies, or suffering of their family members, and may even repeat life patterns that seem difficult to explain.

 

The study of family energy offers us an opportunity to begin seeing these hidden connections. When a person can truly see how the family system operates—when the unseen ties and entanglements that have long remained unrecognized finally come into awareness—a deep sense of understanding and acceptance naturally arises.

 

Through this kind of seeing, many entanglements begin to loosen, and much of the heaviness we carry can gradually be released. In this way, we are no longer simply pushed forward by fate, but can move toward a life that is more conscious, respectful, and truly our own.

 

By Suzanne Yang