Walk the path of being with yourself

 When we walk the path of being with ourselves,

there are no bad people and no good people in our world—

only clarity or confusion, awakening or being lost,

but no right or wrong.

 

When a person is lost, they feel helpless and disoriented.

When you are hurt, you will naturally protect yourself and react.

Because you are lost, you do not know where your “home” is.

You feel fear, a deep lack of support and safety.

 

Those who are lost may hurt others.

But when they find their way—when they begin to see clearly how to walk their path—

they no longer wish to hurt anyone.

Because they understand that to hurt another is to hurt themselves.

We are all walking the same path.

 

When you begin to walk the path of being with yourself,

there are no bad people—only those who are clear and those who are not.

 

When you are clear about what guides your life,

when you truly know which path you are walking,

you no longer have time to be entangled in conflicts and disputes with others.

Because you begin to clear away the confusion within your consciousness—

your biases, conclusions, and fixed judgments.

 

As you step into the path of awareness, attention, and presence,

you move closer each day to a life without troubles.

And the most beautiful thing is—

this requires no force, no striving.

We can simply and gently be with ourselves.

 

Sometimes resistance arises, and being present may feel difficult.

But that is okay—

continue to be with the resistance.

In doing so, you are already going deeper.

 

Conflicts between partners are like two lost people arguing,

or like two individuals carrying burdens as vast and heavy as mountains accumulated from their families,

living together day after day—

how could there be no conflict?

 

But when one person begins to be present,

begins to clear the inherited emotional burdens and obstacles,

something truly begins to change.

If you truly love your children,

this is the greatest gift you can give them.

 

Notice what you feel in this moment.

Just notice—

do not judge, do not label it as good or bad.

Because the moment you label it,

you fall into liking or disliking.

And if you dislike it,

you will try to make yourself feel better.

 

Thus begins an endless cycle within “good” and “bad.”

Your time, your life,

will revolve within this loop—

repeating the same patterns again and again.

 

When presence happens, it is profoundly important.

It allows us to understand what suffering is,

and what joy is.

 

Once you grasp this essence,

you can truly live well.

And true well-being is simple—

peace, contentment, and an ordinary life.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

 

The Wave

 I remember a scene out of a Steven Seagal movie in which his opponent said with amazement, “I feel fear,” as if it was the most curious thing in the world. That’s really all it takes in the spiritual quest, the ability to spot when someone or something pulls us in, and staying with that movement of energy as if it was the most important research project in the world.

Awareness is not being on autopilot. It’s energy in motion. It’s alive. It’s effortless. Yet, when something or someone pulls us in—or repels us—that’s when the “self” is activated and the opportunity arises to watch the “wave of me” gain momentum and fade into nothingness where it came from. Have “you” ridden the wave today? Tell us about the experience. How did “you” jump off?

What Is Listening?

 We never really listen to each other. When you really listen, time slows down. What does this really mean? Say, when we are listening to the rain and the raindrops are falling. We don’t have any expectation of how the raindrops should fall. We have no preference for the rain. At this moment, only the rain is present. The person who is listening to the rain disappears. In this situation, time slows down.

 

When we can listen like this, we become sharp, clear, and enlightened. However, once the “I”—thought and “should”—appears, it becomes crowded and busy. When we just listen without the “I”, the ability to be aware arises.

 

When you can be aware with clarity, you will be aware immediately when the “I” shows up. This immediate awareness brings out your insights. You don’t have your insights by reading a book. You don’t get your insights from school but from pure listening. When pure listening arises in you, you have the chance to liberate yourself from your “I”. You become liberated from your mind, liberated from the challenges of life. You can only know your conditioning and mind in this pure state.

 

Just listen. Listen to any sound. Be aware of how you listen. What kind of feelings arise in you? What thoughts arise in you? Just be aware without taking any action. It’s really important to be aware of the rising thoughts. Every thought is connected to another. With this attention, a different energy field is created, and insights arise freely from the “I”.

 

How are you when you are listening? Are your anger or grief sufferings still there? When you are listening, they stop temporarily. They are not functioning at that moment. You are not using your anger to listen. You are not using your grief to listen. You are not using your mind to listen.

 

Listening without our mind opens up our self-sufficient energy. The heart is still. The senses get even sharper and clearer. No intervention. It is a pure and unknown state. At this moment, we enter another space, another dimension. We are connected with energy from another dimension. The energy cleansing happens by itself at this moment. The cleansing process is intensified if you speak the Letting Go Sentences.

 

Suzhen Liu

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

Choice-less being

 Just because you like something doesn’t mean you should do it, that is, be aware of certain dopamine boosts such as over-eating, cheating on your partner, drinking alcohol, etc.

Just because you dislike something doesn’t mean you need to avoid it, that is, sometimes we need to ignore the cortisol spike and do it anyway, such as doing taxes, going to work or gym, etc.

Who makes this decision though, society, ethics, you as a gatekeeper of what you think, feel and sense is “right”? Traveling the Way is an energy constellation. God is pointing at life’s essence and we act accordingly. 

You might say for modern wo(man) the self is the result of all choices in a lifetime, whereas the spiritual opportunity is choice-less being. Follow the energy and if a choice pops up, revel in it. Another opportunity to get the self out of the Way!

Beyond Right and Wrong

Some people come to me seeking help, yet they leave feeling even more upset. They believe I did not answer their questions, but often, what they are truly seeking is not an answer.

 

For example, there was a man who firmly believed he was always right and others were wrong. Yet despite being “right,” he felt deeply wronged. When he asked questions, what he was really seeking was validation—recognition of his position.

 

His questions came from a strong sense of “I,” entangled with inner obstacles:

 

“How could he treat me like this? Do you agree with him?”

 

On the surface, these seem like questions. But underneath, they are requests for judgment. What he truly cared about was who was right and who was wrong. That was the hidden motivation behind his asking.

 

He felt I had not answered him because I refused to step into that framework. It would have been easy to say “yes” or “no,” but such answers would have no real value for him. They would not help him move forward.

 

If I told him what was right or wrong, he would remain trapped in that cycle. And this is the nature of it—those who cling to being right often remain within the same repeating loop:

 

“Why did they treat me this way?”

“I did everything right.”

“You should have treated me better.”

“I was good to you, so you should be good to me.”

 

The mind keeps moving in this direction, unable to break free. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle—what we might call karmic repetition.

 

In his world, everything is reduced to right and wrong. But real understanding cannot emerge within such a narrow frame.

To find a way out, we must be willing to step beyond this binary thinking—to see from another angle, to allow the mind to open to something new.

 

Only then can a different kind of understanding arise.

 

It is a pity that he could not hear this at the time, but perhaps one day something will shift in him. Perhaps he will suddenly realize that reality holds far more dimensions than simply right and wrong, good and bad.

 

And in that moment, a new possibility may begin.

 

Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732

Truth gets communicated in paradoxes

Communication of Truth has to appear as a paradox because it has to be communicated to an illusionary entity that secretly opposes it. 

Take time as an example, “freedom is here and now” is true, but it has to be delivered at a time when the fruit is ripe to fall so to speak.

The image that best describes our spiritual quest is one of an imaginary mountain with the master sitting on top and the aspirant climbing.

The mountain of spiritual accomplishment is imaginary! Realize this and the quest is over. Until then, the master’s words must appear paradoxical.

Awakening #spirituality #paradox 

Ending the Inheritance of Suffering

 On the surface, some lives appear calm, even whole.

Yet no family is without its weight.

We look at others and think they are well,

but we do not see the unseen—

the quiet histories of tears and endurance carried within them.

Our parents, our grandparents,

and the generations before them

live on in us—

not only in memory,

but in the subtle layers of consciousness,

inherited as feeling, as pattern, as energy.

Often, we do not know what truly happened.

And yet, something remains—

a lingering sorrow,

an unspoken anger,

a quiet imbalance moving through the family line.

When we carry these within us,

they do not stay hidden.

In relationship, they are easily stirred,

rising without permission,

beyond the reach of control.

These forces move us.

They speak through us.

And when they fracture a relationship,

the wound can be difficult to mend.

From that fracture, suffering extends—

echoing, repeating.

This is why suffering feels endless.

There is no single answer that can resolve it completely.

This is the truth.

We may search for something to hold onto—

a belief, a path, a place to escape—

thinking that somewhere, somehow,

we will finally be free.

But wherever we go,

we meet ourselves again.

Every family carries this inheritance.

Every person bears a part of it.

To truly learn from the field of family

is to begin here—

to see clearly that we are carrying these wounds.

From this seeing,

a quiet understanding emerges.

And in that understanding,

a space appears—

a distance between ourselves

and the obstacles within us.

This distance is what begins to end

the endless pattern of human suffering.

There is no final answer.

No perfect state.

No awakening that permanently removes all pain.

The idea that there is

is itself an illusion—

a story we tell to comfort ourselves.

What is real

is the direct seeing of suffering—

the willingness to understand it completely.

Only then

can we stand apart from it.

And here,

our attitude matters.

To see clearly the movement of suffering—

this is the heart of it.

Because within us,

there is imbalance,

there is anger—

and from these,

reaction arises.

And once we react,

the pattern begins again.

Without awareness,

we recreate suffering effortlessly,

continuing the cycle

without even knowing.

A simple moment—

a word of criticism,

an unmet expectation—

and something in us tightens.

Anger appears.

Imbalance takes hold.

But it does not end there.

From that imbalance,

we begin to act—

to harm, to accuse, to defend,

to turn against others,

or against ourselves.

And so the pattern deepens.

The essential question is not

how to stop it by force—

but this:

In the very moment these reactions arise,

can we see them?

That seeing—

is the truth.

 

Suzhen Liu

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

 https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732