Beyond Right and Wrong

Some people come to me seeking help, yet they leave feeling even more upset. They believe I did not answer their questions, but often, what they are truly seeking is not an answer.

 

For example, there was a man who firmly believed he was always right and others were wrong. Yet despite being “right,” he felt deeply wronged. When he asked questions, what he was really seeking was validation—recognition of his position.

 

His questions came from a strong sense of “I,” entangled with inner obstacles:

 

“How could he treat me like this? Do you agree with him?”

 

On the surface, these seem like questions. But underneath, they are requests for judgment. What he truly cared about was who was right and who was wrong. That was the hidden motivation behind his asking.

 

He felt I had not answered him because I refused to step into that framework. It would have been easy to say “yes” or “no,” but such answers would have no real value for him. They would not help him move forward.

 

If I told him what was right or wrong, he would remain trapped in that cycle. And this is the nature of it—those who cling to being right often remain within the same repeating loop:

 

“Why did they treat me this way?”

“I did everything right.”

“You should have treated me better.”

“I was good to you, so you should be good to me.”

 

The mind keeps moving in this direction, unable to break free. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle—what we might call karmic repetition.

 

In his world, everything is reduced to right and wrong. But real understanding cannot emerge within such a narrow frame.

To find a way out, we must be willing to step beyond this binary thinking—to see from another angle, to allow the mind to open to something new.

 

Only then can a different kind of understanding arise.

 

It is a pity that he could not hear this at the time, but perhaps one day something will shift in him. Perhaps he will suddenly realize that reality holds far more dimensions than simply right and wrong, good and bad.

 

And in that moment, a new possibility may begin.

 

Suzhen Liu

 

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Truth gets communicated in paradoxes

Communication of Truth has to appear as a paradox because it has to be communicated to an illusionary entity that secretly opposes it. 

Take time as an example, “freedom is here and now” is true, but it has to be delivered at a time when the fruit is ripe to fall so to speak.

The image that best describes our spiritual quest is one of an imaginary mountain with the master sitting on top and the aspirant climbing.

The mountain of spiritual accomplishment is imaginary! Realize this and the quest is over. Until then, the master’s words must appear paradoxical.

Awakening #spirituality #paradox 

Ending the Inheritance of Suffering

 On the surface, some lives appear calm, even whole.

Yet no family is without its weight.

We look at others and think they are well,

but we do not see the unseen—

the quiet histories of tears and endurance carried within them.

Our parents, our grandparents,

and the generations before them

live on in us—

not only in memory,

but in the subtle layers of consciousness,

inherited as feeling, as pattern, as energy.

Often, we do not know what truly happened.

And yet, something remains—

a lingering sorrow,

an unspoken anger,

a quiet imbalance moving through the family line.

When we carry these within us,

they do not stay hidden.

In relationship, they are easily stirred,

rising without permission,

beyond the reach of control.

These forces move us.

They speak through us.

And when they fracture a relationship,

the wound can be difficult to mend.

From that fracture, suffering extends—

echoing, repeating.

This is why suffering feels endless.

There is no single answer that can resolve it completely.

This is the truth.

We may search for something to hold onto—

a belief, a path, a place to escape—

thinking that somewhere, somehow,

we will finally be free.

But wherever we go,

we meet ourselves again.

Every family carries this inheritance.

Every person bears a part of it.

To truly learn from the field of family

is to begin here—

to see clearly that we are carrying these wounds.

From this seeing,

a quiet understanding emerges.

And in that understanding,

a space appears—

a distance between ourselves

and the obstacles within us.

This distance is what begins to end

the endless pattern of human suffering.

There is no final answer.

No perfect state.

No awakening that permanently removes all pain.

The idea that there is

is itself an illusion—

a story we tell to comfort ourselves.

What is real

is the direct seeing of suffering—

the willingness to understand it completely.

Only then

can we stand apart from it.

And here,

our attitude matters.

To see clearly the movement of suffering—

this is the heart of it.

Because within us,

there is imbalance,

there is anger—

and from these,

reaction arises.

And once we react,

the pattern begins again.

Without awareness,

we recreate suffering effortlessly,

continuing the cycle

without even knowing.

A simple moment—

a word of criticism,

an unmet expectation—

and something in us tightens.

Anger appears.

Imbalance takes hold.

But it does not end there.

From that imbalance,

we begin to act—

to harm, to accuse, to defend,

to turn against others,

or against ourselves.

And so the pattern deepens.

The essential question is not

how to stop it by force—

but this:

In the very moment these reactions arise,

can we see them?

That seeing—

is the truth.

 

Suzhen Liu

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

 https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732

 

Did God ask you to sit down and listen?

 First know your Self; 

leave alone the idea of teaching others. 

If the world and its people 

remain after your realisation, 

you may teach them.

Sri Ramana Maharshi

When Awakening happened and a change in career was in order I thought to myself that as a trained presenter I could always give talks on spirituality instead. God came to me and said, nothing wrong with your plan but why don’t you sit down right now and listen instead? 

There is nothing wrong with sitting down and listening, but when you spend all day writing and presenting you don’t have the time to face the loneliness and emptiness inside. It’s not fun to go there! Yet, God is kind and fair, you only have to go on this deep dive a few times; afterwards it becomes natural. 

Along the Awakening quest everyone is bound to reach an unmovable object. The obstacle cannot be moved. It’s the purpose of the interference to show that the “body, mind, world matrix” cannot be cracked from the outside; you have to discover its fluidity from the inside. “You” are the energy displaying life as is!