Opening up to the inner emptiness

 When we are very quiet, our obstacles will appear. For example, I am very quiet now, and it emerges that oh he lied to me last month; he said he was going to meet friends, but he didn’t. At this moment I’m getting angry. At this time, I am angry and stop at this anger. I’m just very angry and haven’t transcended it. After this anger, you will think and doubt whether he is like this or that and then you will finally not want him anymore.

 

But then the doubts will return. If I don’t want him and he doesn’t want me, what will happen to me? I will be back here, right? So, what will I do? I will quarrel with him and question him again because I have no other way. So why do relationships keep repeating the same old things? What’s this? It’s because we haven’t upgraded ourselves. We don’t know for entanglements in relationships, we can’t find an answer or solution from the entanglements.

 

Instead, you must reach this emptiness, you must reach this height or this state before you can control your life. Do you understand? I’m not good enough. I failed. Why am I so miserable? Why can’t I get out of it? I feel like I haven’t done well. I can’t meet my parents' standards. I’m not good enough. Then what’s next? What do I feel next? When I think I'm not good enough, I feel my colleagues don't like me, they don't accept and recognize me. My parents don't like me, and my friends look down on me. So, when I think I'm not good enough what do I feel in the end? Emptiness, right?

 

So why can’t you step out of the feeling of not being good enough? Why? Because you haven't reached emptiness. Then when you reach emptiness, the state of not being recognized, respected, loved, or welcomed, and when you feel—wow—empty, it is so terrible and what are you going back to do? Eating, drinking and having fun! Yes, go back to eating, drinking and having fun, or being a workaholic. Then your life is like this, repeating over and over again, just like a clock that strikes from one to twelve. So, in the end, this state can be summed up in two words: doubting life!

 

So, when I have a feeling that no one respects me, no one welcomes me, and I feel that I am not good enough. I feel very painful. Then when you feel the pain of emptiness and loneliness and you run away. Is that right? You escape to eat, drink and have fun. So, you keep repeating, "I am not good enough.” What is the reason? Because we don’t know the emptiness caused by our not being good enough. We don't know what emptiness is at all. So, this feeling of not being good enough will keep repeating. Today when we transcend it later in meditation, our life will be different.

 

This emptiness is really very important.

 

Excerpt from Suzhen Liu’s recent family energy workshop, week 11, Emptiness and Loneliness.  If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

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Awakening: Halfway there

 Bon Jovi’s “Living on a Prayer” comes to mind. Actually, prayer can be a pretty good approach after Awakening. The break-through has occurred. We see glimpses of what lies beyond the dictate of the personal self, but the self-made interferences still get the better of us from time to time. So we can ask God, “Open my heart and open my mind to Your Kingdom!” The Guidance from Beyond is bound to come if we have the open eyes and ears to receive it. What is not so useful if we pray for this and that in order to be complete. That way we try again to put our little constraints on God’s Abundance.

What we call ego is an attempt to cling to what we perceive to be good while avoiding what we perceive to be bad. When we vibe with Universal Energy all these petty considerations are temporarily overridden in the magic of the here and now. When it comes back, however, we often don’t even realize what is going on. Why is there so much fighting in the spiritual community? It’s because everyone has a narrow perspective of what path to follow. It’s the same “what appeals to me is good and what doesn’t is bad” perspective that everyone else carries with them. Have an open mind and heart and stay with the tension.

Without tension there is no orgasm. Without a quake there is no break-through. Likewise, stay with the tension when you feel squeezed in between two competing demands. Awakening can for some—for me it felt that way—be a honeymoon period where everything goes your way with divine assistance. We own that, but as long as we have one foot in the personal world and the other in the universal, conflicts are bound to happen. Their sole purpose is to help us making the commitment towards the Universal Energy complete. So stay with that tension, uncomfortable as it might appear. The good thing is we have to face the inner programmings only once. Every tension that arises afterwards is just a repeat of the same old tune.

Please Give Me Your Love

 When both are demanding love from each other, how can that be exactly? When you both are demanding love, who can actually give?  When we are demanding something, we are functioning from a lack of energy. This lack of energy is created by both of us because you are demanding it from me and I am demanding it from you. You aren’t able to give love consistently because you haven’t transcended that lacking energy within yet and neither have I. So, you and I create this lacking force together.

 

We never see that “lack” is our personal problem, but we demand it from the external world instead.  As a matter of fact, if there is one who can give, then it is possible to ask, but the only one who can give is the one who already has.

 

When you indulge in any feeling, say you feel lonely and alone, you identify with this feeling, it means that you identify with this force. Because you already identify with this force, you don’t have the ability to withdraw yourself from it, that’s why you want to fill this hole.

 

Learning meditation and the Letting Go Method is to learn to withdraw yourself from these forces, then we are able to withdraw from these states of experiencing lack. It is not easy to learn this, but once you do, you become quite powerful.

 Suzhen Liu

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Love your fate

 The here and now is timeless. Everything is perfect when we are “That”—peace, abundance and love prevail. Have you noticed that the past does not exist when we enjoy this satori moment? It is like sitting on the mountain summit and the arduous journey to get there was just the means to an end and has lost all relevance. 

As I was driving yesterday I realized that this is really the meaning of the “love your fate” philosophy. The “body, mind, world matrix” is merely the means to an end to bring us to this summit, and to get here, we needed everything, the good, the bad and the loving. In this timeless state everything is forgiven and forgotten.

“A Course in Miracles” presents the same idea in Chapter 13, The Guiltless World: “Time seems to go in one direction, but when you reach its end it will role up like a long carpet spread along the past behind you, and will disappear.” Likewise, you can consider life as the perfect archer: shoot first and draw the target around it!

Do you feel the perfect moment right now? Life got you here in all shades of grey.

On loneliness and emptiness

 A few years ago, a man who had been meditating for twenty years told me that during the Chinese New Year, he went out for a walk and saw others were in pairs during the New Year. He was single and not married. When he saw others in pairs at that time, he felt very sad. He was depressed for several days. I said: “Why?” He said he saw others in pairs while he was alone. When he told me this, I told him that when two people are in pairs, they have their own problems. They may quarrel about their children, their future, their finances, or whether they should go back to their in-laws' home. Being alone also has one’s own freedom. Others all say that I am alone and free. So, I told him that one person has one person’s problems, and two persons have two persons’ problems too. If you don't learn to understand yourself today, even if you are always in pairs and achieve what you want, you will still have problems.

 

After listening to me, he suddenly became cheerful. He seemed to think that it's not bad for him to be alone. He didn't continue the topic, so I let it go. Why do you feel depressed when you see two people in pairs? Is what’s inside you coming out? Ah? Loneliness and emptiness come out, right? But our conversation just touched the surface, right? Do you understand your loneliness and emptiness? So, in our many relationship, business, and job problems, why do we feel better for a while, and then those problems reappear not long after? The reason is here, which is what we will learn later. What was that emptiness? Did he understand it? This emptiness is deep in our consciousness. We encounter many things in relationships or in life, and our interaction with people on the surface are all right, but when we get to the deeper level, this thing will come out. So why do your relationships with your partner and children keep going around? The reason is that we have not yet transcended this part of loneliness and emptiness. It is that simple.

(…)

That man has meditated for twenty years, and his mind is already very attentive and calm, but he is still not aware of his own emptiness. Why? This is worth exploring.

Excerpt from Suzhen Liu’s recent family energy workshop, week 11, Emptiness and Loneliness

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See the power of Oneness and the inner interference as is

 We are wired to pursue what we like and avoid what we dislike. The challenge is that this “institution” that fends for our happiness sees a world of make-belief and tries to override what is and creates a lot of mischief in the process.

This impostor claiming to be “me” has been around for eons and we have taken it for granted. If we try to get rid of it we are bound to face a lot of inner resistance. This entity naturally distrusts the power of Oneness and minds our claim that it is illusionary.

We can’t be aligned with the power of Oneness consistently until we have faced this interference, understood it and let go of it. There are two approaches. One, seeing the power of Oneness and two, seeing the inner interference to it.

Everyone wants to be enlightened but no one likes to do the dishes. We have that natural incline to shy away from fears and aversions and run after our desires instead. Again, we need to have the staying power to see the “f-a-d” as is.

Stoicism: maybe we sit with this fear, disappointment and restlessness without doing anything about it as some sort of punishment for the sins of our past, or simply to be someone in the eyes of the higher power that we envision to exist.

Super-ego: maybe we do all this spiritual work which includes the willingness to stand up to our fears, aversions and desires because we have the desire to get something on the other side of the imagined enlightenment state.

There is really only one solution to this problem. Face all the feelings that pop up and examine them honestly. If you are shaking in your boots full of fear, saddle up anyway. If you feel the desire to be somewhere else, hold this tension like a diamond. 

Align with the power of Oneness and inquire into the nature of the inner interference and do it today or it will never happen.

On loneliness

 I'd like to ask everyone if you ever feel empty and lonely?

Audience: “Often.”

We all have these feelings, and we have been doing many things

driven by loneliness and emptiness in relationships and in life.

What is loneliness? What is emptiness?

Audience: “No sense of belonging.”

No sense of belonging. Okay.

Audience: “Feeling unanchored.” “Lack of direction.” “Unable to grasp anything.”

Being unable to grasp anything. Oh, this is very close.  Great!

Audience: “Meaningless.” “A feeling of no existence.”

“I want to do many things when feeling empty.”

So, when I feel empty, I go out to eat, drink, and have fun; this is called emptiness.

So, we still don't know what emptiness is, right?

Audience: “Feeling meaningless.”

Nothing can fill it up and be grasped or found, right? Emptiness!

Okay. Is there any other definition?

What is emptiness?

Audience: “It’s like being floating in the air.”

Okay, anything else?

Audience: “Nothingness.”

Nothingness. This is very close.

Audience: “Not happy whatever I do.”

Yes, emptiness! Nothing is right. Nothing can be grasped. Nothing brings happiness.

Everyone, today if we figure this out, we can avoid decades of wasted time. It’s true.

Why is it? I will take you all to see it later. Not just to see it, but to take you together to transcend it, ok? Why are you sick? It’s also related to this.

Does anyone else want to tell me what emptiness is?

Audience: “It’s like an empty hole.” “Nothing can be grasped.”

It's like a hole. Nothing can be grasped, right?

Emptiness. Does anyone else want to say about emptiness?

Audience: “It’s accompanied by great fear.”

 Yes, it is accompanied by great fear.

So, are all these definitions that we just talked about actual emptiness?

So, when I can't grasp anything, I feel empty and so I go to grasp something.

After I grasp it, do I feel empty? Will I still be empty? Yes, I will.

(…)

We grasp something that is a projection of this part of our inner need, and we then forget this emptiness. You grasp something that you think is precious; maybe it’s a relationship.

When you lose this relationship, why can't you get out of it? You lose the person you love, and you are in pain. It’s not the person leaving you that makes you painful. What is it that makes you painful? It’s the emptiness, being unable to grasp anything, that makes you painful. You must first understand this point.

Excerpt from Suzhen Liu’s recent family energy workshop, week 11

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

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