Our Beliefs Decide Our Destiny

 I used to partner with people in business, but I was scammed. After that, I came to a conclusion: no more business partners. I began living by this belief.  Whenever someone approached me for a partnership, I would become stubborn and resistant, convincing myself that this way I wouldn’t get hurt again. Everyone lives with their own belief systems. These beliefs may protect us, but they can also cause us to live mechanically, almost like a zombie. Once we begin paying attention, we can start living differently.

 

Belief systems live deep within us. They usually do not express themselves as clear thoughts, but rather as patterns of behavior. For example, if there are only ten chairs in a room and an eleventh person enters, you might immediately stand up and give away your chair. Why? Perhaps because, deep down, you do not feel worthy of taking up space. You may believe others are better, and that you are not good enough. But “I am not worthy” is a story created by the mind. It is a thought — not reality. You gave yourself a score based on past injuries and painful experiences. When you can see this clearly, you realize it is just a thought, not the truth. And in that moment, something softens. You loosen up.

 

We can observe ourselves in daily life by paying attention to how we interact with others. When the belief “I am unworthy of love” is operating, you may try to do more than necessary in order to feel worthy. You may lend money without considering your own financial situation. You may agree to unreasonable requests just to avoid rejection. These behaviors all arise from a belief. The mind convinces us that by over-giving or overcompensating, we can make up for what we believe we lack. If we cannot see this pattern clearly, we will continue to be driven and controlled by it but once we see it, we begin to loosen the grip, and that is where destiny begins to change.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

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Inquire within and let life show the Way

 Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. It is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.

Adyashanti 

You can always tell where the personality of a friend digs in their heels, even for those of us who have come pretty far in the Awakening process. Often the inner resistance can be found in the spiritual mission itself: a favorite tautology that is lectured as the gospel, a gentle looking down on the so-perceived less awakened, or mistaking personal passion for the universal flow. 

But then, spotting these wake-up opportunities in others is probably telling volumes about our own inner resistance. As Jesus observed in Matthew 7: 3-5, “Why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log in front of your own eyes?” The amazing revelation is that we have countless opportunities each day to truly look, and life becomes the aid to get the self out of the Way.

The Seed of Injury Energy

 Being hurt and hurting others are essentially the same movement. When we are hurt, we carry the wound within us, and sooner or later we treat others through that wound. This is the natural response of unprocessed energy. It is not that we intentionally want to hurt others, but when we are hurt and do not know how to process the energy, it becomes stuck. And when energy is stuck, it expresses itself through reaction.

 

In this sense, once I am hurt, I will unconsciously hurt others. It feels almost beyond our control. It is not something we consciously decide. After being hurt, a conclusion quietly forms inside us:

 

“I am not worthy of love.”

But where does this thought come from?

Who is this “I” that is not worthy of love?

If we continue to inquire, we will discover it is the injured self — the part of us that was hurt and never truly seen or healed.

 

This injured self begins to create conflict. It picks fights, misunderstands others’ good intentions, and interprets situations in ways that confirm its belief. In the end, we “prove” to ourselves that we are indeed not good enough and therefore what we fear becomes reality. This is the paradox: the mind is incredibly skillful at creating suffering. Whatever belief we hold unconsciously, life seems to organize itself around it.

 

When we are caught in injury, we lose the distance needed to observe it. Without awareness, the wound becomes our identity. And from that identity, we continue the cycle.

 

All of this is created by the mind — until awareness gently steps in.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

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Claim the Present

 Every feeling, every thought and every event shows us our identification with body, mind and world. We cannot sit there and claim that we are not attached. If we weren’t, silence would prevail. We need to own the “me” to be able to look through the illusion.

If life is gelling, enjoy! If interferences and inner conflicts appear, look for the i behind it. There is something amazing that happens in silence. As Viktor Frankl discovered, “between stimulus and response there is a space.” This space is the power of the present. 

All of humanity’s vibrations flow there, just as much as the Source in which body, mind and world are created. Stay with these vibrations until the source of Creation shines through and ascend into this frequency. Claim the present in the present. It’s priceless!

Look at yourself!

 When we are able to look at our sadness,

we realize we are not sad,

We are simply witnessing sadness passing through us.

When we are able to look at our anger,

we realize we are not angry.

 

These feelings bring an impact,

a surge of energy we can feel;

but we are not them—not when we choose to look.

 

When we are able to look at ourselves,

we realize we are present with a human life:

a life of ups and downs,

of joy and sorrow.

When we watch our own lives,

detachment naturally arises.

We are still living,

still smiling and crying,

yet there is peace—

a peace born from the realization

that everything happening

is simply a game.

 

By Suzanne Yang

Discover the pal inside

 Romeo, save me, 

they’re trying to tell me how to feel.

Taylor Swift, Love Story 

A man has a small penis and minds until a day a woman tells him he looks sexy that way. A woman has small breasts and feels inadequate  until someone reminds her that many models are flat chested. A man loses his hair and is devastated until he realizes how manly a Bruce Willis look is.

We feel how we feel, who knows why exactly. Maybe Juliet discovers some day that Romeo isn’t quite the heartthrob she thought he was and that her parents had a point to warn her after all. Life is as it is. What we can do is to inquire into ourself until we find a true pal—peace, abundance, love.

Observe Your Interpretation

 Different people react differently to the same event. The emotions that arise in each individual depend not on the event itself, but on how the situation is interpreted. Imagine a primary school student telling his parents that he has a school outing and asking them to prepare snacks. The parents forget and do nothing. How might the child feel? He may feel angry, upset, sad, lost, or confused. He might complain, hesitate about whether he should still go, or feel embarrassed. Beneath these reactions could be deeper feelings: being neglected, undervalued, unimportant, unloved, or filled with self-pity.

 

These emotions do not simply pass—they can expand and influence future relationships. How does a person react when he feels unloved and unimportant? Even if this experience happened long ago in childhood, its influence can remain, shaping the same reaction patterns again and again. What is the issue here? The root cause lies in how the situation was interpreted.

 

For a young child, the world is very small, and a single event can feel enormous. No matter how old he becomes, this inner child may remain frozen in that moment, reacting with the same attitude and repeating the same patterns. Every repetition reinforces the inner experience of “I am not important” and “I am not loved.” The more this pattern repeats, the harder it becomes to see clearly, because the heart becomes bruised and guarded.

 

In daily life, many situations trigger us, and we become entangled without realizing whether it is the event itself or our interpretation that is influencing our reaction. This is why clarity is essential. We need to distinguish between what actually happened and the meaning we attached to it.

 

Without this clarity, our reactions stay rooted in the past. We become unable to build real, present relationships with the people around us, continually falling back into the pattern of “not being loved” and “not being important.” Yet in reality, it is often we ourselves who are unconsciously pushing others away.

 

By Suzhen Liu

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering” available on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Love-Within-Release-Suffering/dp/0999251732