The Power of Admitting Our Emotions

 Sometimes we are deceived by our own ideas. We tell ourselves, “this is fine.” “Don’t be upset.” We use one thought to manage another, trying to convince ourselves to feel differently. Yet beneath all of this, the energy remains exactly as it is. No matter how much we pretend not to care, the truth is that we often do care deeply. Thoughts cannot be used to eliminate thoughts.

 

When we honestly admit our emotions, the energy can begin to move. Once it starts to flow, it can change. How deeply it changes depends on our attitude and on how willing we are to reveal ourselves. The more open we are, the deeper the transformation. But if we cannot accept one of our own weaknesses, the process of letting go will stop there.

 

We often believe that thought can overcome everything, and that effort or willpower can remove pain. But all of these attempts remain within the boundaries of “my thinking.” Real change begins when we see how our pain is formed. In that seeing, the suffering can stop—sometimes all at once.

 

Any emotion, any form of energy, can transform when it is allowed to be seen. For example, when anger arises, its expression is not simply venting. It represents an honest admission to oneself: I am angry. In that admission, attention becomes possible.

 

Then we must observe carefully: What thoughts arise as this angry energy moves?

 

“I am angry.”

What am I angry about?”

“She should not have treated me this way. I feel deeply hurt.”

As we stay with the anger and allow it to quiet down, something important happens. Quietness is essential, because in quietness there is no desire, no intention—only observation.

Then the thoughts may begin to change:

From: “How dare she treat me like this?”

To: “Please love me. Please be kind to me. Please accept me.”

 

Without this process, the energy cannot be transformed. If we deny our emotions or reject what we call negative energy, we cannot see our truth—and we cannot see love. To deny our emotions is, in a sense, to deny love itself.

 

True learning happens naturally, without force. When we fail to see our patterns and instead repress ourselves with ideas, we create the need for even more ideas to suppress the earlier ones. In this way, our energy becomes trapped in repression. But when we are willing to face these negative obstacles directly, the energy changes on its own. This is transformation at the root.

 

By Suzhen Liu

 

If you enjoy Suzhen Liu’s writings, please check out her new book, “Discover Love Within—Release Your Suffering,” available on Amazon.

 

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