Drive

When you talk to family, friends and colleagues in an open way, without having any secret agenda and without any concern that they have one, there is an open exchange of energy at that moment, an encounter with kindness that emerges out of the spontaneous union of caring people. If in that natural exchange opportunities emerge to help the other party, you just do it without thinking. I would emphasize the 'without thinking part'; this exchange puts the the self temporarily out of the picture  as you get sucked into the energy exchange and your mind is 100 percent absorbed. This happens to be the now, or the flow, or the zone that the spiritual as well as the psychology community has discovered. As you flow, you experience a drive that is serene and happens to be very different from the drive that we all know so well: the itching under the skin to get something or to become someone.

Of course, you have to accept who you are; negating your passions doesn't solve anything. But what you can do is to look for these serene moments and as you welcome them, the Tao will send more opportunities to heal yourself your way. As you experience these moments, it is actually quite easy to perceive how the serene drive is making you whole, while your passions can become cancerous so easily.

Lord Krishna says to Arjun in the Bhagavad Gita "You have the right to work, but never to the fruit of your work. You should never engage in action for the sake of reward, nor you you long for inaction." The problem is that if you are really honest with yourself, this is impossible to do since you always have an agenda deep down inside, but if you embrace the priceless offers from the Tao , either by merging with a friend or a situation, these drives transform themselves at that very moment. At least at that moment, you have managed to transform your passion into a feeling of serenity. So please enjoy yourself, or perhaps I should say your Self, along the Way, the Tao!