Connecting With Love

The ego is quite literally a fearful thought.
A Course in Miracles

An old friend from Beijing was visiting Su Zhen. As she stood there at the airport she noticed a trace of nervousness. So why on earth was she nervous? As she monitored her thoughts she observed that they centered around the appearance of her house, the way how the kids look these days, what kind of meal she had prepared, etc. So she realized that moment that it was all about her and not her friend, or rather, that she worried about how her friend would perceive her. Where is the love in that? But when her thoughts moved to her friend instead, out of a sudden the well-familiar feeling of love overcame her.

Do you realize the insanity of what was going on here? When you interact with people you only think that you care about the other person. When you monitor your thoughts carefully you realize that you often care more about your image. And this is why most of people get anxious when they are with other people. Instead of truly connecting with them they have a mental filter standing between them. This is why real connections are rare. Two people get together physically but mentally they are still alone. If you want to feel less lonely, drop the filter.

Real connections imply that you open yourself to the other without fear and without any hidden agenda. The Tao will show you how to accomplish this feat. You may say that this may work out with an old friend but this is impossible to accomplish in a business setting. This is not so. The Tao will only connect you with people who give you the opportunity to heal your environment. There is nothing to be afraid off if you always put your best foot forward. Let the Tao show you that you can connect with love in any setting. In all cases there is a little work involved, a little back and forth, but all the work is in the end geared towards letting go of the filter. With your openness and receptiveness realize that you are one with everyone and everything. Practice this idea with us for a few years and discover for yourself that your old notions of friends and foes will have become meaningless. Wherever you look there is always another opportunity to connect with love.

By Christian and Su Zhen