Have you ever wondered why we are scared of getting old, sick, or just down on life? We can understand why we all want to look young, healthy and feel upbeat. However, as a human being, it seems that it is our destiny to experience all these things, the good and the bad. You may be surprised to hear that, but it is the anticipation of these negative life events that make us suffer even more than the experience itself. So why exactly are we so scared of experiencing these things?
Is it because we don’t like to look old, sick, or down? Is it because we have a fixed image of how we should behave or look like? Is it because we cannot accept ourselves when we look old, sick, or down? It is so easy to be happy and be proud when everything goes our way. However, when things don’t happen as we wish, observe, are you the first one to attack yourself? Do you perhaps mind the situation because you think other people mind the state you are in?
Not everyone is bothered by old age, sickness, and depression. They may be a bit surprised when they see us this way, but soon, they accept it and carry on with their lives. We, on the other hand, are the ones who have a strong reaction and are deeply bothered by these occurrences. If we really reflect on this situation, we realize that deep down inside we never really loved ourselves unconditionally; we never really accept ourselves totally. It is this conflict, this split in ourselves, which makes live under the fear and create all the unnecessary suffering for us.
Try to make this promise to yourself and observe how you feel when you make this vow:
I take your truly to my heart,
and to respect,
however you are,
healthy or sick,
good or bad,
rich or poor,
young or old,
popular or apparently forgotten.
I will always stand by your side.
We are whole and complete as a human being when we love ourselves unconditionally!
By Christian and Su Zhen