There was a time when I learned that one of my colleagues had cancer. When I met him, I told him about my spiritual path and he was naturally quite interested in it, hoping that I might have some helpful suggestions for his struggles. Unfortunately, all I could offer him in the end was some emotional support; he died before we could start a healing discussion. What I have learned in the meantime though, the inner conflict that probably contributed to his illness, I suffer from myself. So if anything, his premature death only strengthened my determination to find healing opportunities for myself along my spiritual path.
After the painful wake-up call of losing a friend, I also have become much more cautious reaching out to other spiritual travelers and friends who need support. Not because I don't feel compassionate, and certainly not because I don't want to help, but rather because I realized that I myself need care and attention. When you help transforming a friend in need, you in fact get transformed yourself. And that joint healing journey requires energy and it takes time. But in the end I have just slowed down a little and not reversed course. Certainly, when the Tao knocks on my door I will always open it. A higher authority is in charge, and She knows more about my healing potential and the energy at my disposal than I do.
Maybe one day I am whole and strong enough to be a professional life coach myself. Either way, what I already know today is that every spiritual traveler is qualified to share her lessons learned with others. Conflicted, or healing, connected to the Way, or missing a beat, we always accumulate priceless spiritual insights that beg to be communicated. It is my passion and mission to write down these lessons learned along the Way in this forum, and I would encourage you to do the same for your fellow-travelers.