(A Course in Miracles)
A friend is great at observing and acknowledging her feelings. She will say, ‘I feel sad’ without immediately jumping to the conclusion that this person or that situation may have caused it. That is a wonderful ability and allows her to really go to the root cause of the problem.
So often we say, ‘If it wasn’t for that person, I would be happy right now!’ Well, it doesn’t work that way. The person unexpectedly leaves and we are still as miserable as we have been before. We don’t notice this inconsistency either because our brain immediately jumps to the next scapegoat.
Accept your feelings. Be one with them without projecting, without thinking, without conjecturing. That way you will observe what many spiritual folks claim, that feelings—just as thoughts—are like clouds drifting in the wind. It is the escalating interaction of feelings and mind that causes the thunderclouds.