Messy Love

Dear human, you’ve got it all wrong. You didn’t come here to master unconditional love. That’s where you came from and where you’ll return. You came here to learn personal love, universal love, messy love, sweaty love, crazy love, whole love. Infused with divinity lived through the grace of stumbling. Demonstrated through the beauty of messing up, often. You didn’t come here to be perfect. You already are. You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous.
(Courtney Walsh)

A love affair is not the problem, two lovers expressing love physically are close to God even though they certainly inflict pain on their trusting partners. The problem becomes if they don’t fess up to it. It’s the secrecy that kills spirituality. You either go to your partner and say, ‘sorry, I just made a mistake’, or you are honest enough to admit that you have outgrown your relationship and move on.

Open marriage is an elegant way out for those who can live with it. Sexual relationships, just like friendships and marriages are different degrees of entanglement. We are One. We are caught in a web of relationships anyway, so why should the sexual expression of love not be part of it. I remember a skid at the Hindi school of the boys where a king got really caught in the intrigues of his wives. A little boy afterwards raised his hand and offered the lesson learned, ‘never have more than one wife’. I thought he was wise beyond his age.

I am convinced that in future generations our living arrangements get more complex. We are here to express love in all 50 messy shades.  I used to be a mind driven person when my spiritual journey started. Everything was so clear-cut, but I fooled myself. The ego goes deep and every interpersonal relationship has some ego involvement that we conceptualize away. It was only when my heart chakra opened up when I realized how twisted our moral high grounds are. Today I would agree with Courtney Walsh, ‘life is messy, love is messy, but we are here to live it to the best of our abilities.