If we deny our parents, it is just like denying ourselves. When we deny ourselves, life will continue to remind us of this fact. These tests are not there to punish us, but to let us know that something is wrong. We affectively cut off our connection to our own roots. The connection to our parents forms the foundation to all other connections.
What does it mean to connect with our parents? There is a boy who hated his father for having endless affairs. After he grew up and got married, he still couldn’t accept his father’s behavior. Until one, the same thing happened to his wife. She had an affair.
He was very, very hurt and asked me, “what did I do wrong? My whole life I followed all rules of ethics, I never did anything bad, and yet this happened to me!” He was distraught. I asked him, “feel it, is there anything different now in your feelings towards your wife compared to how you feel towards your father?
This man never talked nicely to his father. He didn’t have a good relationship with him because in his heart he still resented that his father shouldn’t have had an affair. Maybe he can say that he thought his father did the wrong thing, and when you do something wrong, you should be punished.
But he forgot that everyone can punish his father except for him. Why? Because this is the Tao. Because everything he has in his body is from him, so everyone can blame him and punish him but he can’t. Because if he punished his father, the connection would be off. Is it fair that he has to experience the same pain, to be betrayed by his wife?
I told him, “When you can feel this pain of being betrayed, you can understand your mother’s pain. This pain won’t disappear by punishment or blaming. Can you just experience this pain, experience your mother’s pain, to simply experience your mother’s pain, and understand what you did to your father cannot change your mother’s pain by a bit? Can you understand this?”
“When you cannot understand this, all your thinking will be attracted by this energy, then you will attract someone who will have an affair. This is self realization. Your frequency will resonate with a person with this frequency. You will attract this kind of person for us to discover our obstacles.”
In our life, opportunities for learning are happening all the time, the key is if you can notice and observe. The root to your relationship and suffering, first is to connect with your parents no matter what your parents did to you. We are from them, we were born by them. If this connection didn’t happen, it’s just like there is no root to our destiny, like the tree without root, or the flowers without water, then soon our life will dry up. That’s why every child should connect with their parents.
By Suzhen Liu
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