Seeking Recognition

 We are seldom aware that we are seeking others to recognize us nonstop.  Actually it has been influencing our relationship with others but we don’t understand it.  The reason we don’t understand is because we have been driven by this attitude to do lots of things.

Whenever you get recognition, you feel happy. If you don’t get it, you feel pain.  If you get it, you want to repeat it.  In case you don’t get it one time, you feel painful, sad, and are suffering.  If you get it, you feel happy for one second, and then you want to be better, and keep repeating this pattern.  We live our life unconsciously under this pattern.

When all we care about is getting recognition, we are excluding others already.  At this moment, you already exclude and reject others.  You already exclude others because to get recognition is much more important than anything else.  At this time, your interpersonal relationship must be under this influence.  If we cannot see its influence and its root, we would still live under its influence.

By Suzhen Liu