We often depend on the person with whom we have a relationship. When we depend on them, we just need to look at the other, focus on him, and then the fear beneath the dependence wont come out. Then we feel safe. Therefore, we cannot stop this dependence.
When we break free from this dependence, in the beginning, we will feel very anxious and experience panic, and then we will try to bring back the dependence in order to continue our happiness. It will be very painful and torturous during this period of time.
When we lose the dependence, a lot of things will surface, we will feel disoriented, and then angry. Why do you feel angry? Can you pay attention to “Why do you get angry?”
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