We all long for love and want to be loved, but what is love? When we feel lonely and want company, if someone shows up and is our company, we will call it love. When we feel lonely and are in pain, we also long for someone to be with us, and we again call it love. When we feel frustrated and feel like a failure, we also want recognition and acceptance, and love.
But what is love? We don’t know what love is but we define love by our pain. Can we call it love? You meet my expectation, then I say you love me because I have pain and you meet my expectation. This is my definition of love. But, is it love?
We don’t know what love is. What we know is, we need warmth and love. But, do we know what love is? Do we turn love into a trade? This notion of love is very superficial and shallow.
Love is supposed to be a miracle. Love can solve all the pain in our life but we turn it into something very narrow because we project our pain into love and define love from our pain’s perspective. What is love? In our relationship and life, if there is no love, we are destined to suffer and will suffer repeatedly.
What is love? Our life is full of frustration, failures, aloneness, loneliness, pain, fleeting pleasure, temporary satisfaction, and lots of pain. This is our life. This is what is happening in our life. Let’s take a look, when facing this pain, how do we deal with it?
How do we deal with this pain? Do we face it? Or run away from it? If we can answer these questions, then we know love.
If you find Suzhen Liu’s writings helpful, please check out her book, ‘Letting Go—Release Your Suffering’ on Amazon.
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