Can you expose your vulnerability to other people? Can you tell them your needs and allow them help you? Observe yourself and find out what has stopped you from opening up to others in the past? Why can't you tell your colleagues, friends and family your concerns, doubts and needs? Do you feel that in doing so, you undermine your image?
Please observe yourself. Whenever you try to create an image or carry an armor to protect yourself from the people you interact with, you are not yourself at this moment. You basically close the door on people. You let the ego interfere with the present moment. Whenever you pretend, defend or project, true communication and connection with your Self is lost. Exposing your vulnerability requires the courage to face the fear deep inside. It is hard to do, but there is lots to gain in the process.
Sure, exposing your vulnerability to others is hard to do in the beginning. Maybe you can at least try to be honest with yourself and try admitting your true desires and needs to yourself. And when you reach that stage of honesty, take baby-steps towards others.
Open up to your friends and family and voice your needs and concerns. See for yourself how the Tao rushes to your side as you open up. Soon you will have the confidence to reach out to a broader set of people as well as be willing to explore more sensitive subjects. The way of the Tao is really that, the understanding that you and the person you meet today are one. Dare to stop pretending, defending and projecting and you will see this spiritual truth right in front of you. With that understanding there is little to fear and so much to explore and discover. Have fun along the Tao - a magical world is waiting for you.
By Christian and Su Zhen
Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label communication. Show all posts
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Sunday, June 16, 2013
Silent Communication
Why don't you shut off the news, the TV and the
Internet and start observing the other information that you always can tune in.
Did you know that your environment is communicating with you non-stop, just as
you are emitting signals all the time without being aware of it?
You can find out this fact as you spend time with other people. There is a Chinese saying “when you get close to the red, you will become red and when you get close to the black, you become black”. This is exactly what is going on. People around you influence you just as you influence them. You can realize this when you suddenly have some thoughts or emotions which are perfectly in tune with your environment. Even more than that, along the Tao you can observe that sometimes you are in these unexpected moods only to find that the environment and the people who otherwise would have caused this mood find you later. We are one and time literally doesn't exist. Before, afterwards are all perfectly accessible in the Now. Your subconscious already knows early in the morning who you will meet today and why.
Our claim that “You are not your thoughts and are not your emotions" applies here as well. You are really part of a giant theater stage that puts you subconsciously into the situations that have to play out. You only think you are in charge. In fact, you are playing out programs that you acquired in previous life-times and by your parents. Just as your kids will find out 40 years later that they in fact have signed up for the homework that you left for them. We are all part of a big puppet theater play and the master of ceremony behind the stage is wise indeed.
You can never free yourself from this subconscious bondage and identification, but you can rise above it by being mindful. Observe for yourself how your thoughts and emotions interact with your environment. Can you imagine that one day you have that dark thought of commiting suicide but only to find out this is the thought from the person sitting next to you on the train? How silly would it be to let your "I" drag you down on a wave of self-accusations and misery when in fact you can stop this train of thought before it leaves the station and instead let your positive being instead lift up the brother sitting next to you.
We are communicating silently even if you don’t put our moods and thoughts in words. Energy is going back and forth in this invisible world. Experiment with this concept and just observe; you will have lots of fun and you will feel a lot better about yourself. Let the world smile with you.
By Christian and Su Zhen
You can find out this fact as you spend time with other people. There is a Chinese saying “when you get close to the red, you will become red and when you get close to the black, you become black”. This is exactly what is going on. People around you influence you just as you influence them. You can realize this when you suddenly have some thoughts or emotions which are perfectly in tune with your environment. Even more than that, along the Tao you can observe that sometimes you are in these unexpected moods only to find that the environment and the people who otherwise would have caused this mood find you later. We are one and time literally doesn't exist. Before, afterwards are all perfectly accessible in the Now. Your subconscious already knows early in the morning who you will meet today and why.
Our claim that “You are not your thoughts and are not your emotions" applies here as well. You are really part of a giant theater stage that puts you subconsciously into the situations that have to play out. You only think you are in charge. In fact, you are playing out programs that you acquired in previous life-times and by your parents. Just as your kids will find out 40 years later that they in fact have signed up for the homework that you left for them. We are all part of a big puppet theater play and the master of ceremony behind the stage is wise indeed.
You can never free yourself from this subconscious bondage and identification, but you can rise above it by being mindful. Observe for yourself how your thoughts and emotions interact with your environment. Can you imagine that one day you have that dark thought of commiting suicide but only to find out this is the thought from the person sitting next to you on the train? How silly would it be to let your "I" drag you down on a wave of self-accusations and misery when in fact you can stop this train of thought before it leaves the station and instead let your positive being instead lift up the brother sitting next to you.
We are communicating silently even if you don’t put our moods and thoughts in words. Energy is going back and forth in this invisible world. Experiment with this concept and just observe; you will have lots of fun and you will feel a lot better about yourself. Let the world smile with you.
By Christian and Su Zhen
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