Do you want to know what my secret is? You see, I don't mind what happens.
Has it happened to you that you show up at a family gathering and you have to admit to everyone that you are not doing so well? Have you ever observed that we always have the tendency to show our best sides to people and try to hide our dark shades from them? What would happen if we just show everyone our real self instead?
Be honest with yourself! How hard it is to admit to others when we are not doing so well. Sometimes it is even hard to admit to ourself that we struggle. It is just not nice if we suddenly are no longer gleaming, young, healthy, and successful. We hate these moments of truth. It seems that our ego feels threatened if we dare to see reality as is. We identify with that image of happiness and success and somehow expect that we could be fixed in this mood and status forever. It is these false expectations that create the sufferings. If we can realize and accept that our mood, appearance, our health as well as social status can be fluid just like the weather, we will be at ease when we experience change. If you really open up to what is, when you truly face whatever comes your way, you will realize that behind all these appearances there is something real and beautiful. Nothing really can threaten us.
Only when we notice that we are running after an illusion can we realize that we in fact are "real" and always will be; only when we can realize what we identify as "me" is actually a phantom, only then can we really connect with our Self and experience the eternal peace that is always at our disposal. You already have what you long for - Welcome Home!
By Christian and Su Zhen