We have a misconception about love. We think that if we really love someone, we couldn’t possibly love someone else. As a matter of fact, this is our mind and our cultural norms in action. This super ego causes us lots of turmoil. The truth is, we are love and we will naturally love the people around us. There is no bound as far as love is concerned. The more people we love, the more love is flowing through us, and the more energy and joy we are able to share with our loved ones. This love doesn’t necessarily mean that we are going to have physical relationship with them; what we have is care, attention and pure love.
When we say we can only love our partner, a best friend or our family, we set up a limitations for ourselves. We block an energy field that is simply abundant. We punish ourselves when we feel otherwise, and are then surprised if something dies in us. And when we find out that our partner loves someone next to us, we also feel betrayed and hurt.
Sometimes it is hard to accept the truth. So if you are in a relationship, please don’t punish yourself for having feelings toward someone else. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love your mate any more. God has given us a giant heart; it is simply our loving nature in action, so how can we punish ourself for being love! By acknowledging the fact that we are love, and we always will love, we become free from the struggles imposed by our society. Love has a mind of her own; it cannot be limited to gender, family, or some special friends.
Love is the opportunity; it is the fear which creates all sorts of problems. May we all have the courage to love and allow others to love as well.
By Christian and Su Zhen