Constructive Assertiveness

There is violence wherever you look. True, we rarely beat each other up in bar fights any more, but for every loving act that you experience there is unfortunately a mean, underhanded or fearful act waiting for you as well. You must be able to observe this aggression in yourself from time to time. So what do we do with it? We are taught to be nice, helpful, kind and generous; so what do we do with the tension if deep down inside we want to do the opposite? Well, do something with this tension. Go out and do yard work, create something, play sports. The journey towards wholeness is completed when you realize that you can have it all. For every frustration there is an outlet.

Like Lord Krishna says to Arjun in the Bhagavad Gita:
You have the right to your actions,
but never to your action's fruits.
Act for the action sake,
and do not be attached to inaction.
Self-possessed, resolute, act,
without thought of results,
open to success and failure.


So no matter what storm is brewing inside of you, accept it and find the creative outlet to get rid of the steam. You have no idea what peace and transformation awaits you. Every crisis, every opponent and every injustice was hand-picked to define you as the one you were born to be. If you express violence rather than love you will be asked to choose again. If you manage to learn constructive assertiveness you have learned everything there is to know. From here on the journey home will be a child's play.