Just Look

Has it ever happened to you that someone says something " accidentally", but it feels like you are cut by a knife? Is that person just mean and wants to intentionally hurt you, or is she triggering a fear that is hidden deep inside? Do not lose sleep over the intention of your friend, do something about the fear inside that needs to be worked on. Perhaps you can observe for yourself, the more you try to avoid the issue inside you that you need to face, the more often it comes up in conversations.

 Maybe you can untie this knot yourself.  We know it is hard to face your fears and hurt feelings, but if you are just willing to look at these issues they are never as insurmountable as it first appears. You probably want to run away from these feeling like we all do. It is as if a little child is waiting inside of us who has no clue what is happening. The inner child needs your support and your fearlessness to look. So what exactly is inside that haunted house? When you take the inner child by the hand and you both look together you will almost always find some links to the past. Understanding where your fears come from is an important first step in tackling your problems, accepting your weaknesses and trying to move ahead despite of them is the road towards healing the old wounds altogether.

Your psychological land mines are already there, hidden deep in your subconscious. What the people say to you is just a reaction to your own energy field. You literally invite others to step on them. The good news is you can make an end to these panic attacks. If you are willing to look you can defuse your psychological mines and the longer you do this, the more you realize that even if one or two still get activated by others, it is nothing but hot air. It was you who heard the explosion before, no one else ever did.

Nothing happens by accident. Friends my have "accidentally" touched an old injury or your so-called foes may have deliberately dug the knife a couple of inches deeper. It doesn't matter. One thing you can be sure of, when you address your fears those incidents will naturally fade out of your life. Friends will no longer mention it, while your so-called foes will naturally disappear out of your life for the very reason that they  no longer serve a purpose. Try it and experience this healing process for yourself.

By Su Zhen and Christian