Sidestepping Yourself

A friend’s wife was cheating on him nonstop.  Finally, he couldn’t take it anymore, so they separated from each other.  How would you react if you were in his shoes? It is natural to blame the wife for her reckless behavior.  How can a wife and mother of two put the family in jeopardy? But then, would you be surprised if we told you that the wife's sister acts the same way? Could there be some unconscious programs at work that just need to come to the surface?

Look closely at your life and that of your parents and family. You will probably see for yourself that you are still doing your parents homework. Sure, your parents have come far in their shoes but they also left some unresolved issues for you to iron out. Fate is passed down from generation to generation. The story line will differ, but the underlying theme is the same. When we view it from this perspective we probably have to conclude that we have no right to look down on anyone. The power behind this insight is that we immediately lose all judgments and our arrogance, just as we have the opportunity to let go of self-pity and low self-esteem. You never had any choice to do anything differently up to this point, but with this realization you have a priceless opportunity to break free at this divine moment.

Your parents have come far; they did what they could given their circumstances. Give your children a priceless gift by breaking free from your chains here and now. You are just playing a role that has been handed down to you, so change the script in a new direction with the stroke of a pen. See for yourself that you can step outside of the person you used to identify with and you can suddenly see yourself with the perspective of an outsider. You then go beyond your past and your genes. You are liberated and rejoin your soul.

It is not easy to break free from the past, but it is possible. The ego minds if it is sidelined. That is exactly the reason why you should gladly welcome everything that is coming your way, the joy as much as the pain, the many friends as much as the so-called enemies. If you have a band-aid, you will welcome it if the nurse takes it off in one go, wouldn't you? Similarly, a little pain now and then will enable you to side-step the identity you were born into. No one wants to change direction if everything goes smoothly.  We only contemplate who we truly are in life's ups and downs. Your life is perfect from the perspective of your soul-development. Embrace whole-heartedly everything that is coming your way and learn to sidestep yourself.

 By Christian and Su Zhen