The power of the name

Let me get that straight, Dr. Adler (eagle) writes about power, Dr. Freud (pleasure) about sex, Dr. Fromm (pious) about ethics and religion, and Dr. Jung (youth) about rebirth. Mmm, you can’t make that stuff up.

Feeling special along the Way

Psychology deals with the "I" - the force that perceives the world and tries to make a mark on it. Spirituality often makes that force - the ego - the villain. But does the ego necessarily have to be malicious? Perhaps it is sometimes simply mistaken about what truly makes us happy, and what not.  The ego may be in need of healing, but we have psychology and spirituality to help with that. Does the ego always have to be scheming against God? I am not so sure that it has to. The "I" certainly likes to feel special, but every child of God is special; the trick only is to find the right mission to feel special about. The Way will help us with that. When we interact with our environment creatively, flexibly and lovingly, we will discover what our special imprint on earth is all about. 

We are God's Co-Creators. That's why we have manifested here on earth. God is happy to grant us the Garden of Eden while being here, but we have to do our job in the creation story as well. How can one discover the Way? God's divine Guidance is always with us, but we have to cut our own interferences out. The wrong ego demands for example, and we have to take our special soul requirements into consideration. A spiritual path does that for us, explaining patiently and lovingly to us what we have to do, what might not be so helpful, and what we should grant ourselves.

Not all ego interferences need to have bad intentions. Say we got separated from our parents as a child while going shopping and it took them a few minutes before they found us. To date we might experience fear when we are surrounded by large groups, and it will be impossible to experience the Way, and the holy interaction of people in those situations because of these irrational fears. That would be an example of some psychological homework that we would have to do. An example in soul psychology could be if we lost a loved one in a previous life-time when we were quite vulnerable, so we find ourselves clinging to people and don't really understand why. We might be able to heal yourself with help of past-life hypnosis; or we might simply accept this character trait in us and invite our soul sibling to heal us.

Every life has some idiosyncratic interferences to overcome, but in time we should be adjusted enough to perceive the blessed world others sometimes overlook. It is the quiet Voice of the Self that we can hear when we get silent, or we manage to step out of our agenda. It is the Way - the Oneness that is behind everything - that can be perceived when we really look. God's Plan becomes apparent in every interaction with our soul siblings.

We may have it all wrong. Instead of lamenting the fact that we are biased and scheming, we should appreciate how life compensates for all our mistakes and personal interferences. Life wraps itself around ourselves and reminds us of our soul mission. The right people show up in the nick of time; problems and events present themselves to make our ego feel special about the right things. If there is one promise of life, it is that no matter what our personal challenge might be, there is always a spiritual path that deals with it, while guiding us Home. Being God's Co-Creator simply means that we take what God has given us and we put our personal spin on the Way. It is fun to be part of the Way, it is meaningful and it is fulfilling. God is lonely without us, so let's accept our creative powers and make His Kingdom complete today. 

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity 

to accept the things I cannot change; 

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference. 

--Reinhold Niebuhr

In an experiment, monkeys were implanted a signal directly into their neural pleasure center. They could activate their bliss zone simply by hitting a button. What do you think happened? They pushed the button over and over. They forgot about mating, forgot about attending to their young. They even stopped eating and hammered that button until they died.

The world is here to lead us Home. Pleasure is part of the Way, and so is pain. If you push your pleasure button at the neglect of what needs to be done you have deviated from the Way. If you hit it because you want to escape from what doesn't feel so good, you also have missed the Way. Life is really not that hard to figure out. There is always a golden middle along the Way. We are not helpless monkeys being tortured by scientists, we are part of God and we claim our right to be Home. This is my spin on the Serenity Prayer:

I do not accept what 'appears to be' but always welcome 'what is'.

I won't do the stuff that is spiritually wrong just because it somehow feels right.

I am happy to endure what may not feel so good if it is something my soul needs.

Every step of the Way, in pleasure and pain, I am already Home.

Detachment

Detachment is not that you should own nothing. 

But that nothing should own you.

(Ali ibn abi Talib)

You can manifest whatever it is you want: your body, your relationships, your possessions, your success. Yes, you are that powerful! Yet, you must have noticed hat there are areas in your life where you face resistance to get what "you want". The reason is that the "you" is way bigger than what the "I" experiences and the "you" has very different longings as well.

Conflicts of interests happen between the "I" and your True Self because you know deep inside that you are free and you mind the stuff that binds you. This fact explains the seemingly endless battles between what the "I" wants and what you feel is right deep down inside. These periods of struggle are just there to prepare you for the next psychological stage: spiritual freedom. When you are truly free, nothing owns you, though all of your needs are perfectly satisfied.

Honor your life, welcome the struggles and the resistance you are facing. Accept that some time is require to propel you from "here" to "there". Where you are going there is perfect freedom, true love and complete detachment.

Experiencing Fear along the Way

How do you experience fear? Have you realized that your encounter with fear changes as you walk a spiritual path?

Before we walked on the Tao it was much harder to recognize the presence of fear. Our behavior was basically driven by fear without being aware of it. We worked hard because we were afraid that we would be a 'nobody' without the bank account, the university degree, the good grades, the professional success, the status. We entered different relationships because we we afraid we wouldn't be cool without the stunning partner, or we were simply afraid to be alone. Essentially all our drives could be linked to some insecurity hidden deep inside.

Walking the Way is a psychological maturing process. We still have interests and motivations but they are more about the thing itself rather than the underlying insecurities. Unfortunately you do not get rid of fear per se, but you are now able to stare it right in the face and you end up making much better decisions that way. A spiritual journey is about gaining degrees of freedom. You stare fear in its face and you tend - more often than not - to do exactly the opposite of what it wants from you. Love, not fear, is the milestone along the Way.

As we keep walking the Tao we learn to accept fear and just let it be. We learn to accept its presence like a rowdy room-mate without getting involved. But just as even a noisy room-mate has good attributes at times, the same with fear. These negative feelings are just like our inner child. The child can be scared, anxious, lonely or sad, but it is eager to be accepted and recognized. We learn to experience these feelings just as they are; like when we yearn for acceptance, status, power or love. With this acceptance, we experience change in us. Acceptance is like a magic wand. The irritation leaves us and the fear fades away. Our shattered soul is suddenly filled with love.

Let’s keep walking the Tao. Our Path is really a course in advanced psychology that gets us in touch with all our drives, longings and fears. Layer after layer of an externally imposed armor gets removed until all that is left is a beautiful soul shining forth. Let’s open our hearts and minds to a thrilling experience where fear is nothing but a transient feeling along the Way.

By Christian and Su Zhen

On Transcending Duality

There is duality in everything. When you are in awe of the Madonna you may also have a morbid fascination with the whore. When you are in search of the hero, monsters of your own making will have to to pop up. When you identify yourself with a country, a religion or a political party, "enemies" will have to be guarded against.

All that is the logical conclusion of duality. It is essentially a product of your own mind. When you read the Tao Te Ching you would at times conclude that it has been written by a scientist. The duality of life is explained by a distant observer who stands outside, not to be touched by life's ongoing fluctuation of yin and yang.

Yet on many occasions Lao-Tzu reports a Force, a Holy Mother, an eternal Source, that somehow seems to be present behind all the duality. The question is, how to get to this Force without being caught in the castles of our creative mind. The answer to that problem is observation: you can see and experience this Force behind everything. Don't presume you know how this Force speaks to you - just keep your eyes open. You stand with both feet planted in life and you literally see what is coming your way.

Do you know the psychological trick that you can either see a duck or a rabbit on a specially designed picture? Same with viewing either a chalice or an old woman. Actually, the trick only works a few times for when you have seen this trick often enough, you in fact can see simultaneously both images. This is also the spiritual break-through Lao-Tzu reported many thousand years ago in the Tao Te Ching when he suddenly saw a Force shining through all the duality. This is the moment of awakening when you suddenly "see" that you have a choice. Yes, you can step outside of the ego versus God duality: when ego and love can perceived at the same time, the choice is a simple one.

So it turns out that you can encounter God with a scientific mindset. As you transcend the duality of our mind you are not left with "nothingness". You discover instead an incredibly creative and loving Force. We encourage you to plunge right in.

Existentialism versus Cosmic Unity

The psychologist Otto Rank perhaps stated the obvious when he said that a birth means the end of physical unity of mother and child just as death brings the end of the individual life. The question now is what to do with that insight. The psychologists maintain that our journey of growing up is all about claiming this individuality while being forced to face our eventual demise. From this perspective, the spiritual longing of cosmic unity is an infantile wish to climb back into the maternal womb and thus escape the fear of living and - eventually - dying.

You can embrace this view just as you can be open to the claim that there is cosmic unity that is ours to discover. From this spiritual perspective, physical unity of mother and child was just an appetizer of what is ours to experience if we open up to the Way later in life. We spiritual travelers claim that you can experience glimpses of this oneness wherever you walk; the love between people, the connectedness of our lives, and the harmony of the Way.

While there is little to talk about for these two disciplines, psychologists can help us to develop the maturity to get ready for our homecoming journey. Life is not easy, there is so much stuff we have to deal with: the fear to grow old, the anxiety to be over the hill professionally, the fear of separation and the dread of our eventual death. How easy is it to look for distractions instead: routines and escapes to shut out the fear. Addiction can do this, but even religion and spirituality can be opium for the soul.

A spiritual path is about falling in love with life, with the problems, the opportunities, with the friends and adversaries. Life can blow your mind, but only a child or a mature individual can experience the magnificence of the Way. Every temporary escape from this maturity with the help of alcohol, sex, chemicals, or whatever else it is that blows your mind artificially, is a step back on our homecoming journey. The same applies vis-a-vis people and organization. You have to be a mature individual to avoid the temptation to submit to gurus, groups and religions.

You can experience what it means to submit to the Way. Once you have grown up psychologically it will be the next natural step to take. It is a liberating journey and it is a lot of fun. Why don't you join us!

Overcoming Your Biases

Psychology has made a nice comeback in recent years as a science. With the help of technology and a little creativity we are now able to test our reactions to people and events and even our subconscious biases in a way like never before. One very nice example in this direction is the test that measures how quickly we can override some hidden beliefs. Say you are asked to push a button to link "women" and "math skills". The longer it takes you to push the button, the more engrained the stereotype that women aren't as good in math as men is in you. That bias may be difficult to accept, but as long as you are aware of it, you have always the ability to compensate for it in your day to day interactions.

Life is nothing but a big healing opportunity to get the hidden stuff out of the basement of your being. A spiritual path helps you with that. All the characters and events that come your way give you the opportunity to learn something new about yourself. So don't aspire to be unbiased, you can't do that anyhow, aspire to discover love in all your interactions. Your friends will help you to make the right choice despite yourself. Show up in every situation, put your best foot forward, and if it takes you a microsecond longer to smile in a situation, that's ok. God is happy to wait for you.

The Maze

Two friends are inside a big maze and they both are very hungry and want to get out as fast as possible. Says the one friend to the other, "I know for a fact that the end of the maze is north because we entered from the south", says the other, "Yes, but that insight doesn't help us very much. We have to methodologically examine all paths because it might just be that you have to go south first in order to advance to the north."

You think you know that you have an atman inside you, a soul, a true self or how ever else you would like to call this divine connection with God. Similarly, all other parts of you that are headed in the other direction must mean that they are bad, right? Your ego has to be controlled, conquered, overcome. The problem with that approach is that who do you think does the controlling, the conquering, the overcoming? It is the ego, isn't it? Along the Tao the ego melts away. It might still be there but you don't engage with it because your breath is taken away by the situation. Your mind is still - you have reached the "I Am" state at this magic moment.

Everything about you is the 'I', the thoughts, the feelings, the subconscious thought processes, the memories and the stimuli from your environment. Accept the 'I' wholeheartedly and devote your life towards making it whole. Being a Tao traveler means that you converge with a divine Force. Allow yourself to be absorbed by it, allow yourself to be digested by life. Life will offer you the priceless opportunity to be divine here and now just as your soul sibling is offered the same opportunity in her slightly different movie plot. When you experience interferences try to find out what is undermining the divine synchronization process. When you honestly ask, you will be told what is holding you back and you will choose smarter next time around. Compared to experiencing Her energy, all other states are zombie states. You have to be with Her and let the Tao show you the way. Please don't have any preconceived notions of how to proceed. Remember that you still carry a lot of psychological baggage that you have to dispose of. As the maze example showed us, sometimes you have to travel in the opposite direction to advance to your destination. Let the Tao show you the way.

The Engine

Freud became famous with one simple idea, everything about us, what we do, what we think and what we aspire, can be explained by suppressed sexual energy. Well, this may or may not be a good working hypothesis, but even if it is, it only capture half of our population. Freud had "yang" in mind; the "yin" energy needs a little extra explanation. But even for our male community, even if you could express your sexual urges day and night - and one day, perhaps even soon - we will be able to reach this stage with the help of a little "virtual spice", we will still not be happy, still not be fulfilled. As a matter of fact, all we will find out how is how empty our sex drives are unless they are an expression of love.

We have an engine inside. It may be sexual in nature, it may be genetic, it may be based on unfinished business from a previous life. It may be a consequence of a rude experience in our childhood. We may envy someone else or we may run after a childhood fantasy. The point is, it doesn't matter what our engine is. Life has one guarantee for us. Launch the journey in whatever direction your heart desires, let your driving force be biological or psychological in nature, life will lead you to love if every step along the way you choose it. The angel and the devil on your shoulder will be equally excited about the journey. The devil will be your engine, the angel your destination.

The Roller Coaster

I visited Story land, an amusement park in New Hampshire, with the boys over the long weekend and went with them on a roller coaster ride. I pretended that I was scared just to add a little more excitement to the ride for the boys, but of course I wasn't. Why would we? The cars are safely embedded in the tracks and you know beforehand where the ride starts and where it stops, right? Life is that way, there is excitement along the way, but your journey has been written in the stars eons ago. All you need to do is to show up and enjoy the ride.

This morning I had a deja-vue moment. A scene that happened exactly around this time last year and I was on an emotional roller-coaster until finally all the fog lifted magically a couple of weeks later. Today I was on the same emotional roller-coaster for about 20 minutes until I got the all clear from the Tao that everything is exactly as it should. This begs the question why does there need to be a roller coaster experience in the first place? Never mind the roller-coaster I would say, it is all part of the bigger plot to let off some psychological steam and God only knows what that is all for. So in case if you are on a similar psychological roller-coaster right now, just accept the ride. It does get easier for the Tao traveler with every iteration. The ride is already over, yet, you haven't quite realized it.

I See

An attractive woman rides in the subway and sees a well-groomed man next to her. Suits are rare in today's casual work place, so she figures he must be a lawyer or an investment banker. When they chat she realizes that he is just a lowly research assistant; not that she would hold that against him, but somehow, on a second look, he doesn't look so attractive after all.

When you see, it is literally the 'I' that sees: the ego, the accumulated past and all the associated expectations. So what you see only really exists in your own mind; no one else will perceive the situation as you do. As a matter of fact, life provides you with all the characters and situations that you encounter today, to offer you the opportunity to see for yourself that the world is a different place. When you encounter situations multiple times, you cannot help putting one and one together. The woman in the example will probably learn to look twice, once her 'status button' gets pushed.

One day you wake up from your biased perspective and on that day you are literally a liberated soul, able to see a new world. The trouble only is that a similar eye-opening experience may lie ahead in different aspects of your life. The ego is multifaceted as we all know so well. But it does get easier and the wake-up process is cumulative. Your sensitivity towards life goes up just as you let go of your psychological baggage. The world that awaits you is full of love and abundance. You rub your eyes and ask yourself how you couldn't have seen these gems before. See for yourself my friend!

Are you Beining Scared or Excited?

In a psychological experiment, an attractive women interviewed a group of men in two different location and gave them her phone number with the instruction to call her if they had any follow up questions or comments. One of the locations was a bridge up in the mountains and the study found that the participants on the bridge called her back with a much higher frequency. The conclusion appears to be that the men experienced an adrenaline rush caused by the high-altitude location and apparently associated their 'excitement' with sexual attraction towards the female interviewer.

I remembered that study the other day when I had a stressful day at work. I had important investment decisions to make and suddenly perceived an emotion in me that felt like fear. But when I thought about it some more I realized that this sentiment could easily be excitement as well. I honestly couldn't tell whether I felt fear or excitement at that time.

Fear is an ugly emotion, but you know what, fear is anticipated pain. When you are truly open to the experience you will be surprised. The hero is born by the situation. You are thrown into a situation and life communicates to you at this moment, 'Well, you don't really have a choice my friend.' So you feel the fear and do it anyway and somehow after the first dragon is slain the second doesn't look so scary anymore. Then one day you actually eagerly anticipate the now and from there on fear will just be another emotion that comes and goes in a heart-beat.

It is not as you think

A group of people were asked to write down their account of an earth-shattering event like 911 and what they personally did around that time. These observations were safely stored away for a few years and the same group was then again asked to comment on the same events. The most amazing thing happened, many reported very different personal accounts and they felt so strongly about them to the extend that some responded to their original memories 'Well, I know that this is my hand-writing, but I am telling you, this is not what happened.'

The believer of a rational world and a rational mind will have to get upset about the surge in psychological studies that shows again and again that we are full of biases. Some will conclude that that only means that we have to try even harder to be mindful of our mental imperfection. I would say, don't even bother. Our hardware is biased and imperfect but it works just well to bring you home to our Source. Memories are there to show you finally what you didn't appreciate in perfect clarity when it happened, namely that you are pure love. Problems in the past are remembered but you feel strangely detached from them whereas every loving gesture, smile and kind word is remembered the way it really happened. You recall the event and the impact with the force of a blazing sun. It is not as you think, but it is as you feel if you allow your heart to talk to you.

You Simply Are

In an experiment people where hypnotized and told to get up in a business meeting at a particular time and water the plants. Indeed, in the middle of a business meeting these people got up and watered the plants. When they were asked what made them do it, they gave all kind of reasons such as 'The plant suddenly looked really thirsty'. The point is that they had no clue why they were doing this bizarre behavior, but they felt they could explain it nevertheless. Not a single person said 'You know what, I have no clue why I did what I did'.

You simply are; you are driven by all kind of things. The scent or the height of a person, the intensity of the sunshine, the prevalence of clouds, the background noise of laughter, engines or birds, the way you have slept, the amount of coffee you have had, your hormones, the lunar and solar fluctuations. You take it all in and you make your all the choices in your day under the influence of all these factors and then you wrap some rationality around why you do what you do. You make decisions and then explain mentally to yourself why you made them.

There are a number of ways we can deal with this insight. We can shrug and say 'whatever'; we can try to understand and analyze all these biases to the best of our abilities in order to make better conscious choices. Or we can conjecture that we are just part of a magnificent movie plot, that is, we are being set up for a reason. The latter approach is the philosophy of the Tao. Everything that happens to you is perfect as is from the perspective of bringing you home. There is no need to explain anything consciously and rationally because everything just happens the way is supposed to along the Tao. While the spiritual journey starts with decisions, with many wrong turns along the Way; soon enough you just wander along the path subconsciously. It is the journey home, the connection with the Source which is effortless, thoughtless, but full of joy and peace.

Facing Your Demon

Everyone has a demon just as every light has a shadow, especially spiritual path travelers. When you aspire to be the Christ or the Buddha, when you want to be in touch with your True Self, then something inside you rebels and screams 'Hey, this isn't me!' This dark psychological force comes out in one form or another leaving the spiritual path traveler in desperation as you just cannot accept whatever is going on inside of you.

The trick is to first understand what destructive force is hiding deep inside of you. There is only one way to transcend this battle of good and evil, you have to leave it alone. Do not take sides, do not gang up with your ideal about your supposed True Self against the evil demon, just accept everything that is going on inside yourself. Period. 

The flip side of this coin is that you do not give power to the dark force inside you either. You are the authority that takes sides with neither and then you just see what happens. The one thing you can and should do however, is to explore how you can express this force inside you in a way that is consistent with your spiritual path. 

A little example. Say you have aggressive fantasies, so it may be a useful outlet to become more assertive without compromising on your kindness. Or say you are a worrier instead. It may be useful to take a little more risk only to find that the world is still standing afterwards despite your concerns. The point is that you have to deflate the air in your psychological bubble without compromising on your spiritual path. Your demon is here to define you. Don't hate it and don't love it, just accept it and do something with this psychological force. If you find your creative outlet and use it as a  pressure vent, I am sure that at the end of road you will be grateful for this dark force that in fact made you who you were born to be.

You are Being Set Up

In a study women were asked to rate photographs of men, but what they didn't know was that some of them were exposed to the scent of men - all rational responses such as how kind or how trustworthy this man on the photo appears to be were identical among the two groups, but the control group that was exposed to the scent had a much stronger positive reaction to questions such as how sexually attractive do you find this man on the photo. Consciously they weren't even aware of this scent; their subconscious instincts made this decision for them.

You are being set up. I remember a day when I went for a date with my wife. It was a beautiful June day in Providence, everything was just perfect on that day. It was as if the skies opened up. What if it had rained instead; what if I had been stung by a bee instead? I am allergic to bees; I don't think I would have had a fond memory of this day. The point is that our instincts coupled with the environment we operate in heavily influences our choices, probably even drives the outcome and our mind just rationalizes what happens afterwards. We are part of a movie and all we can do is to wake up and realize that is what is going on.

I hope you agree with me that you can gain consciousness at least on some level. Imagine the man who has married the same blond 25 year old character four consecutive times and only when his daughter mentions to him that his new fifth wife that he is just about to marry kind of looks like her mother on her wedding day does he realize the pattern himself. Yes we have the ability to wake up within a dream like a lucid dreamer but we still be asleep, we just operate on a new level of consciousness.That's ok too. Just accept that you are sitting on a couch somewhere participating in a virtual reality show that feels really real. 

Constraints

Psychologists measure the happiness of lottery winners in the years after the big win and consistently find that they are not any happier than the rest of the population. In Massachusetts we just had a mega-million lottery event which drew a huge crowd. When  people who purchased tickets were asked them what they would do with the money they pretty much all said that they would quit working.

We all have a job to do. Consciously or subconsciously, we tend to pick occupations that allow us to work on the psychological attributes that we still need to develop, but unfortunately this is not always fun. Sure we have a choice in this. In a successful career we can develop our creative aspects better, in a less successful career everything seems more of a chore. But few would probably continue doing what they re doing if they won 200 million dollars, right?

Well, whether you do or not, you will not be able to escape your spiritual evolution. Once you have the money to retire for life you will hire people to work for you and the old psychological struggles will come back to you in new clothes. Your learning opportunities, disguised in the constraints you face will find you in an any environment. Once you understand the law of spiritual evolution you will happily sign up for everything the Tao throws your way. Who needs lottery wins anyhow, we have a job to do here and now so let's just do it.

On Goals

In a psychological study, some men were asked to play some word association games that all centered around the theme of power. They were then asked how attractive a female participant was and it turned out that many (though not all) men were more attracted to the opposite sex after being primed by the power theme.

I often wonder about the connection between the Tao and the Law of Attraction. Being a Tao traveler, I instinctively feel that the 'Secret' works. Yet, I ask myself, what exactly is it that I should be manifesting mentally? I might have some general goals of how I want to live my life, yet, I pretty much leave the execution up to the Tao. How different then must the psychological mind set be of someone who actively goes after money, status, power or sex. The psychological study suggests that you trigger all kind of other subconscious behaviors when you go actively after your passions. In contrast, along the casual stroll of the Tao traveler, you are actively encouraged to de-emphasize all these subconscious associations. That is, according to the study, if I don't run after power, I may have an easier time withstanding the charm of the opposite sex, as one example. The Tao traveler has only one goal, keep your eyes, ears and all other senses on the Way, while everything else fades  into the background.

Be careful what you wish for

In psychological experiments people were ask to perform some tests. A group of them was exposed to some hidden money symbols, such as monopoly money displayed on a table in the background or bank notes shown as a screen saver on the computer. In the experiment these people were then tested how helpful they would be to a by-passer who 'accidentally' dropped some pencils on the floor and it turned out that the group that was exposed to the money symbol was less helpful on average. Isn't that result amazing? Just thinking about money, even being subconsciously exposed to it, makes you more selfish!

When I saw this result I was wondering what this implies for our mental manifestations crowd. After all, if we try to visualize and 'feel' the wealth, status or whatever it is we want to create, isn't it likely that we will become more egotistic in the process. Don't get me wrong, of course we have to try to express our desires; as we all know, if we repress them, new monsters will come up to the surface. Yet, in real life, the Tao will force you to make choices along the way to express them. This is your opportunity to choose love by saying no to your desire and really meaning it. In contrast, if you mentally visualize your desired goals you risk super-charging your ego very much like in our scientific experiment. How about the following compromise, you manifest the events that you enjoy, but in the bigger scheme of things you feel pretty agnostic about, like hitting a perfect golf shot on a driving range when no one looks. In contrast, all the things that make your blood boil you leave up to life, the Tao, to sort out for you. What do you think?